i have fallen hard for my really good friend what do i do?
2007-02-23 15:53:18 · 28 answers · asked by Lily_Flowers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
whew, had that problem before, it didnt come out to well, because he liked me, when i liked someone else, then when it came down to me likin him, he had a new girlfrien by the time, so my suggestion would be go for it when you have the chance, and see how it comes out, it cant go too bad take it that something had to attract you to your best friend to start with, so obviously you have good times together, so why not make it a actual relationship. good luck
2007-02-23 15:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by just_right_for_u33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea it is really easy to fall for a friend..because you really open up to each other & spend a lot of time together talking & hanging out..I don't know what to tell you to do because if you don't say anything then you might loose the chance too but if you do & they don't feel the same it could ruin your friendship..so you need to really give it some good thought if you think your friend feels the same then try talking to them, if your not sure wait awhile & see what happens...I wish you the best!!
2007-02-23 15:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really depends on how your friend may feel about you. Sometimes it is best to keep it the way it is because in the long run if the relationship doesn't work out and it ends on a bad note you may lose them as a friend also.
2007-02-23 15:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's why they were your really good friend, because you like them as a person and looked for qualities in them you admire. why do people think it is like incest when you get hooked on a really good friend, if you didn't like them, you wouldn't have been their friend. the biggest problem is that the relationship was built on a different set of rules and your "friend" told you things they wouldn't normally tell a romantic interest. why , I don't know, your romantic interest should be your best friend, but our society is screwed up when we try to turn friends into lovers. I think what it really boils down to is if we can get the great feelings from someone we call our friend and get other feelings from our romantic interest, we are kinda like double dippers, it is usually very one sided though, we want to keep getting the "friend" feelings but want to go on and get the romance somewhere else.
2007-02-23 16:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) people fall for their best friends because they have learned to luv them. (***note, luv and love are very different) They have seen all the flaws and strengths, and know what to expect. Your subconcious sometimes hears about people who cheat on their girl/boy friends, and your subconcious knows that your best friend won't cheat on you.
2) Make sure this isn't just a crush. If it is, you do'nt want to ruin a good friend ship with him. Once you're sure, then maybe you should try and get closer to him, open your ears to see if he likes you.
2007-02-23 15:57:40 · answer #5 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, i have to say im in the same position as you. Except, you might wanna no what he thinks about you before you let all your feelings out. It may seem awkward if your like "dude, i like you alot" and maybe he just sees you as a friend. You dont want to lose your relationship over that. And maybe over time progresses, he will like you, or realize he did all along. Good luck =)
2007-02-23 16:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by princess =] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person falls for his best friend because he sees a desirable characteristic in that person, that's also why they became best friends. A person unconsciously chooses a friend having a characeristic he wants in a loved one, more than a friend.
The thing you can do is tell your best friend. don't worry about hurt or humiliation because, remember, he's your best friend. if he doesn't like you, I don't think he'll intentionally embarass you. If he likes you then woop de doo!!!
Well, that's what I did with my best friend. I told her I like her. It worked out for a while, then I fell in love with another girl and she fell in love with another guy. No hard feelings. we are still best friends up till now.
2007-02-23 16:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by Aqua W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that friends fall for friends simply because of the comfort level, i.e. trust openness,etc. As for your situation, that depends on the friendship & if it would be worth it to take that chance. What's his position? If it's a possibility & your willing to take the chance-GO FOR IT. Life's to short to let opportunities pass by.
2007-02-23 16:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by MaMaMiLaJo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are friends and spend a lot of time together you are probably there when stressful things happen also. During those times can give you the opportunity to perhaps look to each other for support.---and with support comes possible closeness.
2007-02-23 16:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by Brick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i am assuming you are fairly young. i have been married for about 5 months...granted not a long time but my wife and i both are not young to any standard. the key role in becoming great partners is becoming great friends and by far that is first and foremost. simply the reason for being so attracted is because you know each others weaknesses and strengths. the key role in a relationship is making up for what the other lacks and vise verse. it is completely natural to feel the way you feel
2007-02-23 16:03:03 · answer #10 · answered by james o 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋