my hubby and I have argued a lot! We havent been sleeping too much in the same bed! He has acused me of cheating on him which No I have not done that! I am not sure of what to think? He's just been giving me the cold shoulder! We just bought a house r moving into it thursday! Why would he treat me like this when everything else seems to be goin good?
Just not sure what to think anymore! I want to be happy but that's just doesnt seem possible anymore! What should I do?
2007-02-23 15:44:48 · 21 answers · asked by woohooo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
been together for 10 years but married for 6 of those 10!
2007-02-23 15:55:06 · update #1
no buying the house is a decision we made together! We have the money for the down pmt. plus buy stuff we need for it! and have money saved! We went the smart way to buy it! so it's not about finances!
2007-02-23 15:58:39 · update #2
yes this is the first house we have bought!
2007-02-23 16:05:28 · update #3
Is this your first house? I was totally stressed when we bought our first house. When you move in, you have to celebrate in every room of the house, meaning sex. Among all the boxes and stuff, just get sown and get funky all day and night until every room has been done.
2007-02-23 15:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have now bought a house doesn't mean anything, other than it gives him more room to kick your butt. Girl listen up. Most abusive men wait for the right moment that can sometimes be years. This man is ready to come out of his bag on you. You say you haven't cheated then there. Don't forget that when people cheat they like to cause riff to take the guilt and blame off of themselves. Don't take this mans crap. Maybe it is him who has cheated. He might have contracted an STD and this is his way of not letting you know that he has been a bad boy and that by the time you two are lovey dovey again he will have 'cleared up' and you will not be any wiser. If you two can't work it out and get your behinds back in the same bed then now would be a good time to split before it gets deadly. Watch him, and don't take any verbal abuse from him either.
2007-02-24 00:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by DARMADAKO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets not jump the gun he may be stressed about buying the new house and everything happening so quickly like moving in on Thursday. Just give him a little time and get settled into your new home with luck everything will be back to normal before you know it.
2007-02-23 23:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You two need some communication - sit down and work it out. Never go to bed angry. And I'd be a little concerned about moving into a new house if you can't get along at all.
2007-02-23 23:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is there any reasonable concern that you could have been cheating? If no, then I hate to turn the tables, but sometimes someone who cheats will start to accuse their mate, because they know they have done it easily, and are now afraid to have it done to them. Usually these people are obsessive about it. It's the guilt and insecurities talking.
2007-02-23 23:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by punchy333 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek counseling and help for both you and your marriage. Start sleeping in the same bed as your spouse too. Maybe he thinks you are cheating because you wont sleep with him in the same bed. When you move into your home then do not sleep in seperate rooms. Also go to http://www.drphil.com and email him for help in this matter as well.
2007-02-23 23:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not communicate your hopes, dreams and fears to your hubby. Communication is one of the keys to a good relationship. Usually a person accuses their spouse of the crimes they themselves are committing. Maybe hubby is scoring on the side?
2007-02-23 23:53:56 · answer #7 · answered by pnut 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he may be having some personal issues of his own that he doesn't know how to deal with or he is seeing someone else.
I would find out now.
2007-02-24 04:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think this happens in all families when the time comes but maybe he loves you really much and thats why he doesnt want u to be cheating on him althought you are not.. i think you guys should talk to eachother and solve ur problems im sure u guys will be fine
2007-02-23 23:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by kayf_life818 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him just what you said here. Lines off communication need to stay open between married couples or it will go too far
2007-02-23 23:48:27 · answer #10 · answered by wingedladyk 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋