My husband of 9 days wants to go to a strip club with his cousins. It's supposed to be some type of "marriage celebration"/late bachelors party. I do not want him to go. I'm upset that he would even consider going since we just got married? So ladies & gentlemen tell me if I am overreacting.
2007-02-23 15:42:22 · 46 answers · asked by redcandysweetness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my opinion no you're not. So many people will be like oh whats the problem, are you insecure dont you trust him etc etc but honestly is it so little to hope for a bit of loyalty and devotion to you (especially so early on!!) I would be offended by it and it would probably make me a little cold towards him in the physical department for awhile too....
2007-02-23 15:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by radiancia 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
No, you are not over reacting, but here is what I would recommend. Play along with it and tell the cousins that you want to send him something special at the club. Then when they are there slip the manager a 50 spot and ask him if you can do a stage dance. Not only will this suprise your husband, but your bound to pick up a few bucks along the way.
Good Luck and let us know which club it is and when.
:o)
2007-02-23 16:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by Barbo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not over reacting. There is no such thing as a "marriage celebration." He is just looking for an excuse to go to a strip club. You both need to set some ground rules now, or this marriage is in trouble. Just 9 days and he wants strippers? Terrible.
2007-02-23 15:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If this isn't a regular thing that he does all the time I would say you are probably over-reacting. I have only gone to one of those places once in the 11 year that my wife and I have been married. Funny things was she insisted that I go. She wanted some time with her girl-friends and there was I already a group of guys going. I really don't think it's healthy for a husband, or a wife to make a regular habit of going to clubs without their spouse, but I really don't see anything wrong with it on rare occasions. Also if he is going with a group of guy it will probably be pretty harmless. Maybe you should take advantage of the time and plan something with your girl-friends.
2007-02-23 15:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by p_doell 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nope. I don't exactly understand the logic of celebrating a marriage with going to a strip club either. As I said in another question, "He's going to other women to fullfill his sexual needs." And if he says he's only going because it's for his buddies, tell him it's a bunch of crap. Is this for him???? Cause you can't celebrate being a bachelor when you're married. Threaten him with marriage counseling if he doesn't take your feelings for real, because this is just a preview of how life is going to be like with him.
2007-02-23 15:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by punchy333 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no, you are not overreacting. The reason a couple gets married is because you love each other and you dont want anyone else and you dont have the desire to go looking at others. Ask how he would feel if you were to go to a strip joint and get all hot over another male? bet he couldn't answer that honestly.
2007-02-23 15:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by sushihen2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't like the idea either...but I do think it's pretty honorable to let you know. He could just try and be sneaky about it. Ask if you can go along...that should throw him for a loop. Most men are so visual, that's all it is for them...they may look and enjoy...but it's you they love and come home to. They are probably very happy after all is said and done, that they married a nice decent woman, after watching women all night. It's mostly just a boy's night out...with pictures. They are going to have more fun hanging out with each other and goofing around, then they will watching the strippers.
2007-02-23 15:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would be a little hurt. I don't think you are over reacting. Some women would be okay with it and some wouldn't.
I think if I was just married 9 days though I would be touchier. I see you have a point.
But in the big picture I don't know if it is that big a deal.
Tell him you will be waiting for him naked in bed when he comes home. Tell him not to get to drunk. He will get the idea.
2007-02-23 15:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The bachelors party is suppose to happen before you get married, and is a backwards tradition anyway. He is married and shouldn't have any reason that's valid to have half naked women hanging off of him. I don't think its overreacting, how would he feel if you did that to him. You need to communicate your feeling to him and he should listen and try to understand. In my mind if I knew it was something that would hurt my wife I wouldn't do it out of love and respect for her.
-NmD!
2007-02-23 15:48:41 · answer #9 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You aren't overreacting!! He should not want to go to a strip club to see half naked women. If he wants that, tell him you'll put him on a show. In my own personal opinion, I think those strip clubs are just so nasty and trashy. I mean yeah, every guy wants to go to one, but I don't see whats worth to see?? If you feel hurt by him wanting to go, talk with him about it. He needs to know how you feel about this situation. If he truly respects you, he'll respect your wishes.
2007-02-23 15:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by mommy2be031207 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give hima condom and let him know that you now own 1/2 of everything and that if he wants to go he might want to pick the best one there and keep her cause you are keeping everything else. He should be doing what makes you happy not trying to cause scars so early in the marriage. I feel you have chose the wrong one and you will see this later.
2007-02-23 15:48:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋