I am in seventh grade, and my parents totally still treat me like I'm five years old!! I know this sounds familiar, but they have gone TOO FAR about ten billion times!!! I'm not allowed to go ice skating on friday nights because they don't think that it's a "sutible enviornment for our little girl", i can't wear black eye makeup, I can't go to the mall or to the movies alone, I even have everything blocked on my T.V. except for the "G" rated shows, there the only ones i'm allowed to watch!!! Anyway, I've tried talking to them about a BILLION times and tried to explain how i feel and that i feel too stressed (i actually was pushed to the point of crying before), but they NEVER LISTEN and still think of me as a five year old!!! They never value my opinion!!! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-23 15:31:56 · 12 answers · asked by iluvpink1456 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
THEY DON"T LISTEN TO ME WHEN I TRY TO TALK TO THEM!!!!!!! (i'm 13, by the way, not 12) Plus, i try to tell them that the ice skating rink is ok and that i've been there b4 and it's fine, but they WON"T LISTEN TO ME!!!!!!!!
2007-02-23 15:49:59 · update #1
im surprised they let you use the internet.
2007-02-23 15:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by whenidecide 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents love you a lot. so much that its hurting you. do you have an aunt or uncle that might be able to help intervene? you do have to realize that you are only in the 7th grade and remember the type of world we're living in today! thats a scarry thought for a parent but i do think they may be going too far in the blocks on the television. they have to realize that they cant hide you from the world either. once you can find someone to help mediate between you and your parents try setting up a trust chart of some type so that when you reach a certain goal that they should allow you more freedom of some kind thats agreeable between you all. if you show responsibility then parents usually feel okay with letting their kids out a little more as they get older. my children tell me im an over protective parent. the thing is I KNOW I AM with good reason. they are not mature enough to do the things they ask to do. so until then i will allways be looking over their shoulders. some kids arent lucky enough to have parents who care. you might wanna be a little thankful that they are the way they are. hope i helped some.
2007-02-23 23:49:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Questionz_Mark: Sorry, answering from the 'stupid' friend's account (the one who aanswered from my account with a crude answer). Anyways, guess what, I just turned 14 (hate to admit it) but even I can't go to places alone. I at least know there should be an adult. Your parents really are right, what if some freak tried to rape you and you don't know what to do because there's no one there to help you that you know! I mean geez, young teen(barely teen, 15 is more of a teen age) all alone. Easy bang....excuse my 'language'. Sure, the G-Rated thing. That's just wrong. I would go nuts without my beautiful Futurama and That 70's Show. I might kill myself! (Don't do that!). And the make-up thing. why cover a young face with gunk and junk that will dry up your skin, make your eyes red, get itchy and cause people to look older (wrinkles I mean!) after using too much. Making you look like a .....please excuse my 'languaaaaage' a total hooker that goes on the streets of New York for some cash and moolah! or a goth geek who praises Greengay and Falloutboy. (sorry if you do like em, I'm a disco and country person...WHAT?!! What's wrong with Tim McGraw?) The ice skating thing, sounds harmless, so your parents are being overly protected on that. But other than that your parents are right....face it....all parents never listen usually but that's because you probably aren't listening either, I know I don't
2007-02-24 00:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by lady_nebica 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to a school counselor. Sadly, nowadays, parents are putting so much padding on life it's a wonder most kids don't end up crazy once they realize what the real world is like. But it could be that they remember what they were like when they were 13/14 and perhaps do not want you to make any mistakes that they might have done. Unfortunately, there is little you can do. Until you're 18....I'm afraid they own you.
2007-02-23 23:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by Ghost Writer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that's harsh, Some parents go to that point where they are so overprotective that they dint know what there child feel. I think you should show them that you are not a child anymore that you can stand now on your own feet. If you talk to them a BILLION times as you said and it didn't work try showing them what you feel.. Like your grades are all good, Like you always study and like act as your aged. If that doesn't help now they have gone soooooooooo much FAR... You have to take it to the next level. Don't be a rebelled child just show them all your feelings about them. If yah know what I mean. Hope that helps.
2007-02-23 23:42:21 · answer #5 · answered by Yulie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ARE their LITTLE GIRL! it's their job to protect you. you should feel lucky to have parents that care about your well-being because so many parents don't these days. they might have heard about things that go on at the ice skating rink that they don't want you involved in. and black eye make-up??? how old are you? 12? PLEASE!!! they don't want you to look like a s!ut and be a target for horny little boys. i would hope that you wouldn't want to get that reputation. as for the "g" shows, that's your parents call and stress...haha you don't know the meaning of the word! you aren't old enough to make adult decisions yet. enjoy being a kid (because that's what you are and believe me...you'll miss it when it's gone) and you should thank your parents for loving you so much that they want to keep you from any and every bad thing.
2007-02-23 23:46:42 · answer #6 · answered by aj607 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're what? About 12? You should not be wearing black eye makeup, and you should not be walking around alone. And G rated shows are fine. There's a lot of crap on TV and in the movies.
Your parents are not oever protective. They're doing things right for you.
Every day, we see on TV that some kid got snatched, and often killed.
It's a parent's JOB to protect their child. Lighten up, Girl! Your Mom and Dad are actually doing you the world's biggest favor, whether you realize it or not. They're showing you that they love you.
2007-02-23 23:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i had a friend whose parents were too overprotective of her, and she eventually rebelled so much she wound up pregnant at age 19. explain to your parents that you feel like they don't value your opinion, and you're ready to take on more responsibility and handle tougher situations. in another few years, they're going to have to let you go off to college, and you would rather leave them knowing what lies ahead of you, while still retaining your parents' values. explain to them that you're not little anymore, and you're ready to take on the responsibility of going to the movies or mall alone, or going ice skating with your friends. invite your friends over so your parents can meet them - that might put them at ease more. and be sure to let them know that you will call them when you need them.
2007-02-23 23:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldent be wearing black eyeshadow in the seventh grade
and my daughter is in the 8 th grade and i dont allow her to do those things either i geuss im overprotective parent too but it keeps my daughter from drugs, rape, kidnapping ,i do buy my daughter make up she wears it lightly like your suppose too . and she gets everything she needs and just about everything she wants but i love my daughter and i want her safe is that wrong of a parent the world is a dangerous place and i want her to be safe
2007-02-23 23:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by family fan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my dear.... for me you are too young to do all that...
me too had been in the same shoes with u..(when i was in a secondary school).. but then...
one day you'll be realize that your parent just LOVE you very much & they doesn't want something happen that could hurt yourself..
just think positive.. one say, you'll be married & you'll have your own kids.. so dear.... just share every moments in life with your parent that that's will be the GREATEST ever moments in your life...
2007-02-23 23:44:24 · answer #10 · answered by mamamni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky. You will understand when you have children. If you know your parents love you, trust they have your best interest at heart and are not trying to make you unhappy.
2007-02-23 23:48:03 · answer #11 · answered by HuniBuniBee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋