We have two children, and i have always been there to provide and care for all of them, she wants 1200/m child supp., primary residence of children, and is already living w/ another guy with my two boys. What can i do?
2007-02-23 15:31:42 · 11 answers · asked by kenny o 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
shoot her!
2007-02-23 15:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by ken 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Head over to legal aid right away. I don't know what state you are in, but they are all over the place. Consider fighting for custody of your children, or file for joint custody to lessen the amount of support you will be paying. Have papers been served on you by her yet? If so, when is your answer due? You can do a rebuttal in your answer, and request a mediation and ask for custody of the children in your response papers. Make sure you state in your response that she cannot take your children out of the county or state you and the children live in. Get some legal protection as fast as you can. This is really a big serious issue here and you should talk to a lawyer or some legal aid person SOON. Find legal aid in your county and go from there. I am sorry to hear this. You sound like a good person.
2007-02-23 23:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by Guess Who? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the US, there are federal laws that serve as guidelines. Your salary, her salary and the number of kids determine the % of support that the custodial parent receives. Of course, there are those who bend the rules and don't report all of their income.
It's not true that men are the only ones who get s----ed. My ex quit most of his jobs, got the judge to dismiss all the owed back support, and he only paid 10 % of his salary for support. He got the judge to reduce the amount twice because he was "fired". Finally, I turned the support case over to the state because I was in debt to the lawyers. If I was on welfare, the judge would have been more willing to get money from my ex to save the state the expense of supporting my child. The system punishes those who work hard and earn a living! While we were married, my ex got another woman pregnant so he claimed that he supported that child 100% even though he was living in her house for free.
I was left with a mountain of bills to pay because I had a steady job and custody. The house was mine before we married, and he still got a bundle. He threw me into financial ruin.
Some judges are not happy about live-in lovers when kids are at home. A lot depends on the vagaries of the judge.
The most important thing is to see your kids and don't bad mouth your ex. I know that is difficult, but it's best for the kids.
2007-02-24 00:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by ne11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get a lawyer or contact legal aid.
I will tell you, that as the mother, she will likely get primary care and control of the kids...and if she gets primary care and control of the kids...she will likely gte occupancy of the home......
Most States/Provinces have guidelines for support when it comes to children...so the support you pay should be based on that and not what she thinks is fair.
The Guideline support provisions are based on your income and the amount of provisions....so she shouldn't be able to screw you there.
No matter what....do not sign anything without a lawyer....a few hundred dollars in lawyers fees could save you thousands if you sign the wrong thing without legal advice.
The other guy has nothing to do with it unless you are paying spousal support, and even then, she has to be married to him
2007-02-24 00:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by elysialaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sell the house before she gets it. But, all the money in a trust for the kids, that she can't touch. Then move to Gitmo. The living conditions are better and she wouldn't be able to touch a detainee. The fact that she is an adulteress has the approval of the liberal democrat majority. You have no rights!
2007-02-24 00:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by Gunny Bill 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fight her for Joint physical custody..So the kids are with you half the time and her half the time..Then you get to see your kids more often and not be obligated to pay child support...The only catch is you must live in their school district or reasonably close so you could transport them when they are residing with you..
2007-02-24 00:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by J&A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was the main breadwinner in your family, you can seek alimony. If the grounds for divorce is that she took up with this other man, you should be entitled to the house-depending on the state the divorce is filed in. Consult a divorce attorney ASAP.
2007-02-23 23:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin k 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay child support, visit your children as often as possible, swallow the resentment and move on with your life.
2007-02-23 23:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
plant some drugs in the house and the boyfriend's car and call the cops.
2007-02-23 23:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by ric9757 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sorry to inform you, not the first man ,and you wont be the last .
2007-02-23 23:38:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the right to bend over, and thats all from what I hear.
2007-02-23 23:40:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋