Many people say that a person is born this way and did not choose homosexuality. And I have always believe that as well. But, I am not so sure if this is completely true from what I've read. I have heard that there have been quite a bit of men and women who, since they were young, in their 20s and so were attracted sexually to the opposite sex, and it wasn't denial or them being that way because it was considered normal. But then later on when they have kids and a family, I have heard, for whatever, reason where men and women who found the same sex attractive, but not sexually to build up and have feelings and find the same sex attractive sexually. And from there the sexual attraction grow, while their sexual attraction subside, and the interest and sexual feelings for the opposite sex wither down while attraction to the same sex goes up. It has caused dilemmas for marriages, and so on.
2007-02-23 15:20:54 · 9 answers · asked by Brennan Huff 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
So if gay people are born this way, why does this happen quite a bit, or later on, with the situations Ihave given. Is it something that was subconscious and always there, but deep within and the person doesn't even realize it until later on? Or can it just it just happen for some people, which seems wierd, but who knows. It's definitely not something people have chosen, as people who go through these things, have no idea why or where there feelings for the same sex came about, but they just did in their 40ties or older. But can someone really have been born gay with situations like this? I would like to know your thoughts on this, and your explanations.
2007-02-23 15:27:13 · update #1
I'm glad you said that, yahoogirl, and that is why I brought this up. I brought this up, because I have heard other gay people say that they were born this way, and others seem to feel this way too. But, to me it seems like it could be many factors and combinations and that someone might not really be born gay, but, situations, etc, which cause some people to have strong feelings and sexual attraction to the same sex.
It's like an inner psychlogical things, or chemicals or something; therefore, it still isn't choice, but it doesn't seem like something that was set up at birth or at a young age either, for some homosexual people.
2007-02-23 15:36:08 · update #2
It's obvious that you don't know how to read "anastasia" or didn't bother reading thoroughly. I never felt that homosexuality was a choice, and my whole paragraphs have nothing to do with choice. It has to deal with whether someone is truly born gay or some situations later on cause it; therefore, a deep psychological thing, which has nothing to do with choice and isn't choice.
And by the way I'm a staight man, so it's nothing personal to me or related in that way. I'm just a thinker when it comes to life, women, society, and breaking things down and analyzing and finding reasons. This made me curious, and I wanted to figure out, or hear other opinions to analyze this thorougly,that's all.
2007-02-23 15:43:47 · update #3
Happened to me...we were together for 9 years when he decided he was gay. I do not believe that anyone (or very, very few) are born this way.
2007-02-23 15:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by Yahoogirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people go through phases, yes- I believe that. They just want to have fun and experiment with their sexuality and end up finding out they are straight anyway. Others "do it" because being gay/bisexual is kind of trendy in today's society. But for the most part, true gay/bi people know from a VERY young age that they are attracted to the same sex, that is when they understand what attraction really is. And this is what doesn't get passed off as a phase and doesn't go away because it is what you are...
2007-02-24 00:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by AmandaVP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a choice, per se, (who wakes up and says, 'I feel like being gay today, just for kicks') but I don't believe its genetic.
a) they've never found any kind of gay gene
b) since you can only reproduce heterosexually, wouldn't that put a damper in who could be born gay?
Conclusion: its probably some psychological thing, could be caused by various factors. We may not know what those are for a while.
2007-02-23 23:25:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I want to bring up is the whole peer pressure to make shure you are strait. I swear that many put energy into making shure you are strait/pass a big test for them, then these people are weird themselves for taking time to make a public performance asking what you prefer.Why do they care?
I know people that married the normal way to please the family and then later on did what they wanted to do and it all ends up being bad for the family. Too bad it's not okay to be yourself in the first place.
2007-02-23 23:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by kook 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since I been sexual at all its been men for me. I don't know why. Just is. Never tried to be with a woman. Never date one, like them and all but not that way. Always been like this. Nothing wrong with that.
2007-02-24 00:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by raymond_h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK..you kind of lost me there for a sec. I have a gay friend who knew MUCH younger than 20 that they were attracted to the same sex. Plus, this friend always says it's not a choice, why would they CHOOSE to have everyone belittle them, their family not speak to them, etc. Makes sense to me. I don't believe they choose it anymore than straight people "choose" to be straight.
2007-02-23 23:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by AnastasiaBeaverhousen 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you are who you are. i dont think there is anything wrong with liking who you like. If you happen to be attracted to men, then you are gay. If you happen to love the same sex... straight and narrow lane. but in the end... love is love.
2007-02-23 23:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He had probably tried his best. He could no longer live repressed. Doesn't meant he love wasn't there. You are probably his world.
'-)
2007-02-23 23:27:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for your opinion.
2007-02-23 23:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋