How do I handle my boyfriend going out to bars all the time while i'm at home pregnant?

Question

He goes out like 4 times a week and I sit at home. We dont live together, but i still think he should be spending more time with me.
How have other women dealt with this issue?

He knows i dont really like it, but always comes up with excuses to keep going.

Answer 1

That could be very hard to deal with especially since you are pregnant and kind of stuck in the house.
Try letting him know how it makes you feel, and if he loves you he will consider your feelings.

But, know that pregnancy is temporary and you will have your time to have fun again as well.

Answer 2

I'm not a woman but i can tell you this, he is not grown up and showing this type of uncaring for your situation that he seemingly is to blame for, shows that he really has no deep feelings for you, possibly he only has a little gilt over what he did, and now only seeks drinking as a way to escape the reality he knows is coming, the bad thing about us men, is that most of us will say or promise anything to have sex with a girl,i think its the animal part of human males that by nature only seek to reproduce, girls always pick the most popular men first,not thinking about how many girls have already been in their bed,this becomes a never ending hunt for something better, most of the time its a life long problem, and girls do it too, to find a man like you want, grown up and responsible, remember this, if a man makes clear in front that sleeping with you is not his main goal and he is very nice to you and never looks at other girls, talks about things in the future, he may be solid ground, the guy you have may just keep coming back for more sex, I'm not saying that's all he wants but ask your self, is he honoring you with his love, or have you just become a pit stop, my ex wife married me and for 24 years i thought she loved me, but she was only looking at my family's money, it took me some time to run away from that, you can run now, good luck.

Answer 3

For some reason men feel that when a woman is having their baby nothing they do has to change. You should tell him that if he wants to go out find some place where the two of you can go together because once the baby comes the two of you want have that much alone time so he should take advantage of spending some one on one time with you.

Answer 4

If you aren't married to him, and you don't live together, why does it matter to you what he does? All his time is his time, not yours.

Other women have obviously dealt with this type of men's childish behavior. What do other women do? They find someone else who will be responsible and step up to the plate. These women resolve to make the world a better place for their unborn children. They strive to bring them up surrounded by people who honestly care about them.
Do not settle for a drunken "boy" when there are plenty of grown MEN out there who can do the job right.

Answer 5

As a recovering alcoholic I know what you're going through cause I did the same thing to my wife. While pregnant she would come home to find me passed out on the dining room floor. Jack Daniels and I had a thing you might say. I am not sure what happened to me will happen with him but one day my wife gave me a gift from our daughter, even though she was 2 months old, and it made me realize just what I was missing and what i was losing being a drunk. Needless to say I grew up. I hope your boyfriend does the same when he hears your baby cry for the first time. Cause daddy can't teach baby to walk if he's staggering.

Answer 6

This is the reason for birth control. It is also the reason kids grow up to suffer. He is immature and does not care for your feelings now. What in the world makes you think he will be different towards a kid? It will only get worse when he feels more tied down. You are going to be spending many years raising a child while he continues to act like one.

Answer 7

He may have an alcohol problem . I was the same way and it caused my divorce from my wife of 7 years. talk to him ask him if he likes to drink more than usual. If thats not it he maybe scared and dont know how to talk about it. or just do it the old fashion way tell him I WANNA GO TO. just to see wats going on and if he says no then start thinking outside the box he may be seeing someone else. its sad but true. best of luck

Answer 8

Start telling him that you want to go to the bar with him, or show up at the he's at, when he doesn't expect it. Your presence ...will not only make a big statement to him, but to everyone else he's having fun with. Walk up to him, In a slightly raised voice...ask him....."so this is where you are spending the baby's money at, huh??"
If that's too much to do, make yourself totally unavailable to him...calls and everything, pretend you disappeared, so it will be him wondering about you...instead of you about him.

Answer 9

If he is putting drinking and partying above you and the baby then break it off with him now as it will only get worse over time and not better. Yes you are right he should be spending more time with you. See if he is open to couples counseling at all and maybe even AA. If it were me i would not put up with this one at all and i would dump him and move on with my life. I would only want him involved with just his childs life after the baby is born.

Answer 10

you should ask him to stay with you. I was pregnant and the same thing happened to me and I love him still and I was fast with the same thing and the chose was do I think he will be there for my child and will he triet me with respect I anser was eacy but doing something about ot was the hard dishion I left hem yes I gave him one more chanes and he walked all over and when I left him the secon time he did nothing to stop because he thought I wold take him bake when he came asking me but no I whoughnt my child to now that a man should triet her with reaspect and I made it with out him. But you need to make a chose on your on ask him to stay with you inste