Why do people that are not gay speak as if they knew how it was to be gay?

Question

Ok, its like asking people that are able to see how does it feel to be blind. You don't know how it feels so why do you speak with such affirmity?

Answer 1

I think it's called the moral high ground. These people want to affirm their beliefs so they take the stance of someone who knows what he is talking about, even if he doesn't. They think just because they believed in it, it is the truth and that gives them the right to speak on it with conviction and confidence. They have to realise that what they believe in may not neccessarily be the gospel truth.

Answer 2

I answer some questions (as a straight female) about gay topics because my only sibling (brother) is gay along with my husbands sister, and my cousin (she is one of my best friends)..to name the closest few..just because I personally am not gay, doesn't mean that I haven't had some of these experiences vicariously through some of my closest people. I guess if you want to know what it's like to be blind, you put on a blindfold and walk next to the blind. You want to know how I can speak with such affirmity about gay people...(?)
because I took the blindfold off and walked next to my family.
If anything I have to say can help someone through some of the stuff that my people have been through, then I'm going to offer my 2 cents. That's why.

Answer 3

Probably it is because they consider that there is no special feeling because of it.

If that is so, they would reasonably expect other people, regardless of sexual preferences, to feel the same as they do about themselves : normal.

Is that not doing what they should do?



Perhaps, if you really feel that strongly, as the comparison you draw suggests, you need to re-think things.

I do not mean that as an insult, but to me the comparison drawn is beyond your conception. I say that because being gay is something you can easily live with, and enjoy throughout your life, and that is NOTHING like being blind.

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On that subject I can speak from personal knowledge, as an acid spray gave me the actual experience. Even though I learned early on that the blindness would be temporary, I still had to endure the reality. The difficulties and other experiences I had through the period of blindness were definitely enough to last a lifetime, and sex was not on my mind during that time.

Answer 4

I take offense to that b/c I am leagally blind. I was diagnosed with a rare form of macular dystrophy when I was 14, I am 26 now and only have about 2 years left before my vision is gone. I come here and respond to just about all the questions posted here. I am very curious about the my sexuality, and find most of the topics and conversations here very enriching and educational, not to mention sincere. I think we, as in the readers answer to the best of our knowledge and experiances. I know I do!

Answer 5

Ahh, this is a question I have asked myself to others many times, and as is usually the case, I get the pat answer of "God tells me" or "I just can't believe you". Ironic really as a proverb makes it crystal clear:

"Until you walk in my shoes, you cannot know the road I have travelled"

Sadly, most don't get it, and worse, they never will.

Answer 6

Cause I think the ones that are so vocal against homosexuality know a great deal about it...they just won't admit it to themselves.

Answer 7

You're right, I don't have a clue how it feels to be gay but I'll continue to support you. People didn't have to be black to know that slavery was wrong

Answer 8

I can only say one word: brainwashed

Answer 9

Because it eases their conscience about being bigots.