Ok, I am Really shy anyway and one of my especially closest friends (well, ex friends) betrayed me and now I'm not just shy, I am scared to death to open up to anybody anymore or get close to them. I want to, I'm just scared to now and I dont know how to get rid of this fear of being close and open with people again like I used to be able to be. Has anybody else experienced this too? How'd you get past the fear? Thanks A Bunch for your help in advance.
2007-02-23 15:18:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, the shyness part Does bother me but what is bothering me more is the fact that I'm so afraid to open up to anybody anymore, even just talking online to friends, I'm afraid to get close. And I'm afraid that if I dont get this fixed soon that I might lose my other friends cause that might be mistaking my fear as me just ignoring them, but thats not what i'm trying to do.
2007-02-23 15:41:18 · update #1
Has something happened to you for you to be feeling this way? When you showed your true self before did others (whom are very close to you) criticize you? The reason why I'm asking is because I have been in the same predicament at one time in my life. But I talked with others and realized that it was not really the others that were causing me to be that way it was truly myself because I had led myself to believe that everyone was ashamed of me. But the one that was really ashamed of me was honestly me. I learned that everyone has their own ways about them and if others don't like the way that I am then that is their problem. And that I should not be ashamed of myself just because I feel that others will dislike me for the way that my personality is. If a person does not like or want to be with the true you then they are not worth being around in the first place. Know one is better than the other one. So what you should do is realize that you are a wonderful person and learn to love & like your self and ignore the insults that are thrown at you. Most people whom are like that is really jealous of you in certain ways because they do not know how to show their sensitive side.
Just keep on living life and being who God made you to be.
Good Luck And
God Bless!
2007-03-02 03:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh gawd yes i have been thru this, last year. after that i found a group of ppl who actually understand me and with them its so easy to open up. im shy also but w/ these ppl im not. we all are so diffrent but anyone can say anything and we might tease eachother for it but thats whats so fun. eventually we all got to a point where we say stuff just to be teased. so find a group of friends that understand you and let it all out (but not at once)
2007-02-23 15:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a best friend right? Try to tell your best friend first that you are scared to open up to anyone because of one of your ex- friends. Tell her anything you think she'll need to know or anything you want to tell her. You'll need to get all of your guts and tell her at a good moment when no one will disturb both of you.
2007-03-02 01:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by isma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start it off through the internet on line friend like now, e-mail me or IM me. Nothing shy about it.
2007-02-23 15:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im the same way im really shy... ill talk to people if they approach me first.. im soo shy ..
you can email me gardenia33_99@yahoo.com
2007-02-27 09:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by gardenia33_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋