there's this "friend" that has been being mean to me. she bosses me around and is beginning to get on my nerves. we kind of just started hanging out but we have been hanging out for like 4 months. sometimes i am afraid to say something to her. Example: there is my different friends b-day party coming up i was invited and she wasnt she said it wouldnt be nice to go since she didnt get invited. this friend that invited me i am kinda close to. i am gonna go but i dont want her mad. what do i do?
2007-02-23 15:14:36 · 12 answers · asked by softball expert in da house!!!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would tell her that you don't mean to hurt her but that she isn't the only friend you have. You need to let her know that just because she wasn't invited and you're going doesn't mean you're insulting her, just that you are friends with the girl and you want to attend the party. She is being possessive and I'm sure it's probably because she is very uncomfortable with her position with other people she's around. Let her know that going to this party won't change anything between you two.
2007-02-23 15:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by birdie6089 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like this other friend bossing you around then you need to speak up and tell her so, you don't need to be mean about it just let her know that you don't like it, and if she don't stop then then you don't need to be her friend no more, friends don't boss other friends around unless its in fun, theres nothing to be afraid about she the one that is messing up the friendship not you, yes you should go to the party you was invited, it would be different if you did not want to go, but not because she didn't get invited, that's not your problem either, don't ruin that close friendship over another, that's just started only 4 months ago and who bosses you around, I sure wouldn't.
2007-02-23 15:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by Terry Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her how you feel. If she still treats you this way maybe she is just jealous and she doesn't deserve you as a friend anyway. It is totally cool for you to go to someone elses birthday party and it would actually be rude for you not to go to something you were invited to.
Just tell your friend that you want to go becuase you dont want to hurt your other friends feelings either. Maybe you could even get your friend invited to the party, ask your other friend.
Hope this all works out for you!
2007-02-23 15:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by trail_2_eagle09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friend has more feelings for you than usual. She isnt a real friend if she is bossing you around and intimidating you. Friends are suppose to be there for you and you are suppose to feel comfortable with your friends. Just go to the party if she gets mad oh well its not like she is your boyfriend or anything.
2007-02-23 15:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by Evie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend like that for years. It never got better. Unfortunately it got worst. So one day I just decided to just stop being her friend and it was the best thing ever. It was like she was getting abusive and really, terribly, mean. I couldn't take it anymore.
2007-02-23 15:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her off and say that if she wasn't invited it's not your problem it's hers that doesn't mean you can't go to the party. if she wants to go tell her to ask the person throwing the party..
2007-02-23 15:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by Bubblez ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this girl is her name Chelsea. Will at least i know her cause we go to the same school. I think you should just go to my party and dont let her get you down. Talk to your mom and moms are always there for you. Just dont let her get you down. Tell her off.
2007-02-23 15:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by Volleyball Expert in da house!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be your own person. Sounds like you are easily controlled. Take charge of your own life. Be kind, but don't be a door mat.
2007-02-23 15:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by Answergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DIFFIDENTLY go!!! don't listen to this so called "friend". If she was really ur friend she would want you to go and have a good time. Remember you only live life once, so live it to the fullest!!!
2007-02-23 15:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that she is being really rude... and while that sinks in i would go to the party
p.s.
i love ur user name!
softball is awesome
2007-02-23 15:21:31 · answer #10 · answered by Catie Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋