My wife has left me & forcing for mutual divorce. I want to get her back. What to do? Please suggest.?

Question

I got married in April 2004 under Hindu Customs. Marriage is not registered yet. 4 months after marriage I lost my job. I did one big mistake, I never told anybody about this, because I was confident that very soon I would re-establish myself & I didn't want to make them worried. I started new business. I lied everybody that my job profile was changed. I had to invest al my time and money to establish that business. After 8 months, my wife, parents and her parents got a shock of life, when they came to know that I was jobless. My wife then supported me, she was working & she ran my kitchen. I used to travel a lot and never given her time. It took me another year to be in comfirtable situation. Till then my wife's patience got over & she left me & went back to her parents. She took transfer in her job. We had some fights over this issue as well. I am now well matured and well settled in life. I love her and want her back, but she insists for divorce. Kindly sugest me how to save my marr

Answer 1

I am not sure what Hindu customs are or how your marriage is affected by this act you committed. I would highly recommend counseling for both of you. Lots of Prayer and asking your wife if she will give the marriage time to work by postponing divorce. A short period separation may be good and provide both of you time to reflect on what you want from this marriage and how to resolve problems/issue that arise. I am confident you guys can work this out--if you truly love one another.

Answer 2

I don't blame your wife one bit. You should have been honest with her from the start. That is what a married couple is suppose to do. You decided on your own not to tell her and now she probably feels as if you have betrayed her. Not by cheating but lying and not trusting her enough to confide into her. Now if you want her to trust you again you have to prove to her that you can be trusted. Once trust is lost it is hard to regain it back, but not impossible. Talk with her and tell her how your mistake has changed both of your life and how if she would maybe you two could start fresh again and allow you to prove how much you love her. Hope it works the way you want it.

Answer 3

hi..There are 2 circumstances . a million. the most generic. Ur moms and dads must be definatley torchuring her.. if so keeping apart from them as a replace of ur spouse and youngster will be a extra appropriate decision, some adult men not at all strengthen up and prefer to adhere to their moms saree.generic Mama's Boy. 2. She not at all said She needs a divorse .. means She needs to stay with her, yet is can not stay with the themes u reason her . 3. She truly has no affection or love for you , and no count number what u do she will be in a position to no longer come decrease back. i'd advise a divorse in effortless words in third case. Breaking this marriage on your paarents sake will convey u no happiness in any respect. notwithstanding if u depart her or stay with her gained't influence Ur moms and dads. They r satisfied anyhow

Answer 4

first of all I think you should learn from all this. Learn that you need to include your wife in everything that you do. Remember whatever you do will effect her too, so try not to keep anything from her. Especially when it has to do with money. Try not to lie anymore.

What you need to do is just apologize and say that you did it not knowing that it would come to this. Tell her that you still love her and that you want to make it up to her. A married couple is supposed to be together throught rough and good times.

Answer 5

It depends on why she wants the divorce. To save your marriage you should try to rekindle the romance you all once had. Also, try marriage counseling. But, if she really does want the divorce, you should give it to her.

Maybe you are trying to save the marriage because you don't like the thought of getting a divorce. But if you want a happy life you should not force her to stay married.

Answer 6

I truly believe that you wish to save your marriage. Unfortunately, the only one who can make the decision to save the marriage is your wife. No one can give you any advice that will change her mind if she has already decided to leave. All you can do is try to make up for your previous mistakes and show her how you have matured. It ultimately lies in her hands. Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

Explain to her everything you have gone through. ask her, what would she like you to do to save the marriage. If she is still interested in you then she will come up with the answer. If not you have left with no choices, but a lesson learnt.

Answer 8

Dont give up. Try just conversation at first. Get to know each other again, go from there. You both fell in love once, maybe you can both fal in love again.

Answer 9

marriage is for good and bad. you made a huge mistake in not trusting her and lying to her about your job, the fact that she is gone, says she doesnt think she will ever be able to trust you again.

HOWEVER if you want her back, find someone younger than her and start dating them, and "run" into her somewhere, she will be back in a week.

Answer 10

You'll have to prove to her through your actions that you love her and what happened previously will not happen again. You put her through a lot and perhaps she has grown a bit through this experience and decided its time to move on.