He is upset with me now.?

Question

My boyfriend has been so stressed out these days about his job. He's been feeling very low. He had a fight with his boss as his boss refused to promote him and in his job the only way forward is to be promoted. He works till evenings and in the meantime he goes for interviews in the lunch time looking for a new job. He spends his evenings and weekends preparig himself for these interviews. He's actually going for 2 big interviews near my city in 2 weeks time so we can see each other more often. He told me yesterday that we will meet each other in 2 weeks. He told me he needs time to focus and he warned me he may be less available for me until then but I have not been able to leave him alone. I have become needy and I told him we're loosing our relaitonship. He became upset with me. He said he has warned me, he has tried to explain to me his situation but I keep insisting on having talks about our relaitonship. He said I don't respect him to let him be. He said he cannot help him now.

Answer 1

Right now he's focusing on finding a job. If he’s this stressed out, it probably wasn’t the appropriate time to push for long, involved talks about the relationship, unless it was something that HAD to be IMMEDIATELY addressed.

What exactly is your question?

Answer 2

Sounds like you should just step back, give him his space and not be so "needy". Looking for a new job, and putting up with a lousy boss is very stressful. The more you push, the more you will be pushing him away. I know it's easier said than done, but just lay low, and when the time is right, he'll come back around. Good Luck!!

Answer 3

So is this part 2 to the same question you have posted a few times on here in different forums? You crave attention it looks like.

You pushed him too far. I think you should consider counseling regarding your neediness. You need to learn how to be supportive. I think you may have lost him. Poor guy...just a stressed man trying to make a better life. Jeez.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Give him some space now or he will give you space permanantly.
Respect the fact that he is trying to better himself, maybe so he can be less stressed, and get a better job.
What is so important that you have to bug him when he is trying to make his life better? Stop thinking about your petty problems because he can't kiss your butt the way you want him to.
Back off.

Answer 5

yes you see my dear he is under alot of pressure at work in a job he know longer feels respected in and passed over in a promotion he probably worked very hard for. So as you can see he is doing everything in his power to get ahead going on interviews on his own lunch hour and anything else he can do to find something better. and he's stressed to the max about this keep in mind too men are normally the big bread winner and maybe one day you two will get married atnd its important to him that he feels valued in his job and appreciated. and this isn't happening. so he's upset over this too.

and now think of this you come along as you say feeling more needy now and insecure and your dumping all these issues on to him with his plate already filled. and naturally he doesn't want to lose you infact he's been straight forward in telling you that the next couple of weeks he has to get down to business or brass tax here and get the ball going so he's letting you know ahead of time he may not be able to be as acomadating as he normal is to your needs. and you have to respect that he came up and told you he stil cares for you your still a very important person in his life but that right now getting this new job is on the front burner .

So you need to be strong right now and very supportive of him. he sure could use your strength at this time and show your devotion to him and how proud you are that he's this sensible and mature he's doing sometjing about his future.

Your probably feeling more needy right now and need more reassureance cause you have sense he is a bit distant with you because of the pressure he's under to get a new job. but you shouldn't feel that way. Instead you should realize hey wow this guy really cares about me he's letting me know im important in his life and he's letting me in on what he's planning to do and he is concerned enough about my feelings to make me aware of whats going to happen in the next two weeks. this isn't for ever sweetie this is just till he can get settled again and feel comfortable himself where he stands in his job.

and yes i agree with him he has tryed to explain to you the best way he can and forthright and very open with you. He's not casting you aside or ignoring you infact he's doing the complete opposite he's letting you in letting you know how he's feeling .. Now you need to understand this and rise up out of this stumper of feeling insecure and be stronger here hun.

Have confidence in yourself and your relationship you to have he isnt' showing you any signs that things aren't working out. So i think your getting all worried and thinking up things that arn't there.

Your role right now is to be strong and supportive. stand up and help when you can also. And take a deep breath and know that he loves you enough to inform you of whats going down in the next two weeks. You can be a big help now to him. and he needs that understanding from you now more than ever.

So dig your heals in and be a trooper.


You can do this my dear.!

Answer 6

HE HAS NO RIGHT TRYING TO BE IN ANY KIND OF RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW. IF HE NEEDS TO FOCUS ON HIMSELF ONLY. EVEN IF HE WARNED YOU IT'S NOT FAIR TO YOU AND YOU WILL ONLY END UP ANGRY WITH HIM IN THE LONG RUN! BEEN THERE DONE THAT. TELL HIM TO GIVE YOU A CALL WHEN HE IS FINISHED WITH HIS GOALS AND YOU CAN TALK.

Answer 7

Well, you should have listened to him.