My boyfriend has been so stressed out these days about his job. He's been feeling very low. He had a fight with his boss as his boss refused to promote him and in his job the only way forward is to be promoted. He works till evenings and in the meantime he goes for interviews in the lunch time looking for a new job. He spends his evenings and weekends preparig himself for these interviews. He's actually going for 2 big interviews near my city in 2 weeks time so we can see each other more often. He told me yesterday that we will meet each other in 2 weeks. He told me the other day that he's getting completely crazy with his company and he cannot wait until he leaves but he still needs to pretend in front of his boss that all is ok as he cannot just leave now. He told me he needs time to focus and he warned me he may be less available for me until then but I have not been able to leave him alone. I have become needy and I told him we're loosing our relaitonship. He became upset with me.
2007-02-23 14:53:07 · 8 answers · asked by Elisa N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Men get so upset when they feel they've failed as a provider. Their egos are so fragile. He feels he's been running himself ragged for both of you, and probably does not understand your side at all. His self-esteem and confidence are taking a real blow.
All you can do is be there for him when possible, and build him up. Don't get dramatic, but lovingly tell him you're sorry if you seemed to be putting pressure on him during this time. That is wasn't your intention, just that you love him and miss your time with him. Tell him he's important in your life, or you wouldn't be missing him in the first place. Keep reassuring him that things are going to work out- they just take time and that you'll both be stronger afterwards.
Also, he's probably sexually frustrated. Some guys.... okay all guys get tense if it's been a couple days, let alone weeks. When you see him in 2 weeks, just jump his bones and maybe give him the apology thing directly afterwards when he's calm.
2007-02-23 15:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by punchy333 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your 13, you should grow yet so you'll suit your weight. As it is, you don't sound that overweight now. The picture drawing might not be helping you a lot for how happy you are. Perhaps if you like drawing, draw other stuff. Draw a whole new world for yourself and imagine yourself there that it's real and the people are just how you want them. Everyone will say they are ok when they really aren't so try find someone you can talk to about it all but also get them in the right mood; if they are stressed they won't be very sympathetic. Don't ever consider suicide. It is not giving life a chance to get better. With homework, get in order what is due when and get the stuff with the shorter deadlines done first. Always do some work every night and try finishing big projects or assignments way before they are due and get them in early as a draft. Start assignments as you get them don't put them off until later. You dad does love you it may be that he is also stressed out at the moment and has trouble taking an interest. For the things that start you crying, consider if they are worth it. Your more important than stuff like that. See it as a test that you can easy beat and try to be indifferent to things such as a messy room. Just take it in your stride and tidy it but always be strong enough to keep going. Your mum may be teasing you about the money thing so tease her back with stuff like what if you spend it all first? If she thinks your weak, just know she is wrong but don't try too hard to correct her. She may also be busy by saying that's nice all the time. My mum always says that but I take it as if she means it and move on. Try to be strong mentally even without friends or support. Be confident and just remember people are not all assessing you. Those who matter shouldn't worry about your looks or manner so be confident on that score. At the end of the day, the little things don't matter. Just so long as you are happy so try so hard and don't let things try to spoil your efforts. Nothing can stop you being happy.
2016-05-24 04:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know what they say "Misery loves company". But honey, this is the one time you seriously need to back off. If this guy is worth it, then give him some space. It's your own insecurities that are getting to you. Unless of course, you fear something else. Which would understandably fuel your neediness. I'm going to be honest. Guys that are in love and have a great deal of stress, tend to open up to their loved one or "vent" about their stress to them...not push them away to prepare for bigger and better. make sure you know what is going on before you start getting down on yourself. A surprise visit might be nice!
2007-02-23 15:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what he does need is space but he needs to at least set time out for just u and him. You need to talk to him straight forward and calmly and tell him that u will give him space but he needs to spend at some time with you once a week or something
2007-02-23 14:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by filipino_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try appologizing. Try to give him all the understanding you can. If that doesn't work, pull your pants down and bend over, he won't even be able to remember his name, much less what he was mad about!
2007-02-23 14:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by darthanimal2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he;s relxing at home u walk up to him with ur sexy smile then u give him the best bj i am serious he will feel less stress and forgive u
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2007-02-23 15:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by terry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 weeks is not a long period to be by urself.
2007-02-23 15:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a good sex with him, it will ease his tension
2007-02-23 14:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by west 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋