My mom is always leaving us home alone. What would happen if I report her to some one?

Question

My mom is always leaving us home alone (13, 8 and 5 yr old) to see her boyfriend for hours at a time, while my dad is at work. Yes my dad knows she is doing this to him, he loves her very much and is always trying to win her back. He doesn't know what to do. She always says that my grandma is going to take care of us, just because she leave is the front house. I ask my grandma if my mom asks her to take care of us while she sees him, she always says that my mom never has asked her. If I were to report her to someone at school at would they takes us away from my mom and dad or just my mom.

Answer 1

Well you are of age to watch the other children . But if they feel you aren't a mature 13 yr, old then that can be a problem . Probably will give dad custody of you guys but you never know . Honey watch what you take advice on because we are not always right unless there is someone who works with child services or a lawyer who is answering your question . Ask this question again and say My mom is always leaving us at home alone . What would happen if I report her to someone ? I need a person who works for child services or a lawyer to answer this please . Good Luck sweetie !

Answer 2

You are too young to be left alone (I'm assuming your the 13-year-old?). If there were an emergency, you are too young to handle it. What I would do first is talk to your dad, and tell him you aren't comfortable being left alone so much with the other kids & no adult. If things don't improve, talk to a counselor at school. They would be able to give you good advice about how to handle this. I am so sorry you have to live like this. Shame on your mom for setting such an obvious, terrible example. You and your siblings are going to grow up thinking this is normal behavior...she should be ashamed of herself. (Maybe you could print this, and all the answers you get, out and leave them somewhere where she can find them. Just a thought). Good luck

Answer 3

I would ask to talk with your dad about your feelings about being left home alone while your mom is out with her boyfriend. Maybe your dad doesn't know that you are being left home alone to care for your other 2 siblings. He would know what to do, I am sure if the department of human services would get involved it is a good possibility that all 3 of you could be placed in foster care. Just a little bit of advice from someone that needed to grow up fast in order to keep her child. I was young when my daughter was born and didn't think anything would happen if I left her there for a few minutes to run up the street; I had my daughter taken away from me temporally and had to go through counseling to get her back. It woke me up, I just wish that I wouldn't have done it, I could have lost my daughter forever.

Answer 4

First I am so sorry to hear what is happening at your home. The first thing I would do is talk with your dad. It is not your responsibility to take on this type of situation. Your dad needs to sit down and have a serious conversation with your mom about her actions and the repercussions of them. I am sure that if your dad speaks to her about her behavior, she will hopefully realize her ways and change. If not, let your dad know that you are seriously considering consulting someone outside of the home for help. The school will get in contact with the departmnet of social services department for your state. It is a possibility that if they find negligence, you are your siblings can be sent to live with a relative or another family. I hope everything works out.

Answer 5

Usually childd services will make a visit to the house and check to see if anything wrong is going on. Because your Dad knows this is happening and he is not taking you guys to a babysitter he is just as much at fault. They may put you guys in a temp home while they educate your parents..Child Services may let you stay with you grandmother or some other family member for a while till they feel your parents can be more responsible. But you guys are way too young to be left alone and you should go to your counceler at school.

Answer 6

In all honesty I'm not sure they would take you away from your father. However, if he knows that your mom is leaving you at home and never does anything about it then he could be in trouble too. I suggest that you talk to your father immediately. Be honest and make him hear you. Tell him that you are to young to be left alone and that if he does not start to protect you then you will need to report your mother. Maybe that will get his attention. If it doesn't then talk to someone at school. The principal, a teacher, the nurse or the guidance counselor will help you.

Answer 7

I used to work for Child Protective Services and I can tell you that in this situation they would NOT take you away from anyone at most they would reprimand (scold) both your parents and tell your mom to make sure grmo knows she is leaving before she takes off. At 13 no-one would see this as a huge issue especially w Grmo on the property. If DSS got involved they would hold BOTH your MOM and DAD responsible for this because he knows she is doing it.

Answer 8

Well to be honest with .. when you hit 13 your legally old enought to babysit.. BUT if its past 12 pm i think you should tell your mom you dont feel comfortable home alone because god knows what could happen. PS.. They wouldnt take you away from your dad your mom would probably go to prison for about a year and you would live with your dad when your mom got out,you would prob be able to go back and live with her because im sure she would have smartened up or you could move out with your dad and visit your mom on weekends etc. lol hope i helped

Answer 9

Talk to your mom first about your concern.She has lost track of her responsibly in risen her children. Give her the first chance.Since your dad know then he needs to do something about you children talk with him. before you
get outside help.See what he says .This is very hard for you It is a shame you have to be in this at such a young age.You have done nothing wrong.Call grandma to sit with you maybe that would help.

Answer 10

Does your dad live with you guys, too? If so then they may take you away. More than likely, they would investigate the story first. But have you tried talking to your mom about your feelings? She may not know that you feel this strongly about it. But, I would really think about reporting her. I mean if you feel that you and/or your sibiling are in danger, then you should report her. But, if you're just mad at her because she's got a boyfriend, then you should talk to her.