My friend, Marie, is friends with a popular girl, Krystina. She tries to hang out with both me and Krystina, but Krystina often pulls her away from me. So, ultimately, Marie hangs out with Krystina although sometimes she appears to not want to. What should I do? Can I convince Marie to hang with me more often? Krystina is not the nicest person you could meet, but has known Marie for a long time. We are going on a trip for our organization. How can I convince Marie to go in my group? She had agreed to, but then Krystina pulled her into her group.
2007-02-23 14:46:55 · 13 answers · asked by Rose♫ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i understand your pain, but you gotta understand the position Marie is in. she's juggling trying to maintain popularity versus having a true friend. as sad as it may sound the true friends get the butt end of some situations. what i think you should do is write Marie a sincere note explaining how hurt you are by her actions or you could simply say it face to face(best option) because although she knows she is hurting your feelings she may not realize to what degree that she is doing it. that might get her attention and really force her to make a quick decision. i dont see her and this Krystina chick being friends for too much longer if she is really the way you say she is. people like that dont keep friends for long. at least not good ones and if Marie cant see that your the better option to go with then she might not be the friend for you.
2007-02-23 15:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel like i have the same problem. i think you should do what I'm doing and try to just have a big group of friends and you can hang out wit your friend when she wants 2 or Krystina isn't around, but when yoyour not around her you have other people 2 be cool with and ur not so limited. or you can do what Krystina is doing and take your friend back don't let her control every thing.
2007-02-23 22:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone be your friend. I know it hurts when Marie chooses Krystina over you. It may be time to look for someone else to hang out with. If Marie were a good friend she wouldn't dump you like that.
2007-02-23 22:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a real nasty friendship. Friends do not fight over each other and you cannot make someone move into someones group. That would be provocating someone to do someone they want to do. If you all don't get along see each other separate. All figure out whether it is all worth it. Make some new friends. Friends do not behave this way and friends stick by you through think and thin. I have a friend I have known for 18 years. We are grown up now and have a family of our own. I have my friends and she has her. We have our own lives. I have introduced her to my friends and it up to her if she was to get to know them. This is real life.
2007-02-23 22:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by beccamcken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry to hear this. you can't buy friendship. and as hard as it is the best thing to do is to go on. and start looking for some more friends. i am not said to stop talking to Marie but for you self steam get with some other friends/ invite new ones over. keep your chin up ...expand your friendship with others and you will find more then you can think of.
2007-02-23 22:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by Purple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't the three of you hang out together? There isn't a rule saying that you can't be friends with more than one person. Talk to both of them together and tell them how their behavior makes you feel. Tell them that you want all of you to be friends.
2007-02-23 22:51:25 · answer #6 · answered by hotmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up on "Marie". She is still your friend. You don't want to give up on her, she is still your friend. Try talking to her about how she deserted you. Try doing something just you and her to try to remind her what good friends you are. I.E: Go to the mall, movie, sleepover, or just hang out.
2007-02-24 01:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by Shay-la♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in this situation it is hard, marie, is basically put in the middle of a friendship struggle, you should talk to her {marie} and let her know how this is bothering you, always be honest, marie has to decide for herself where the better friendship is, you can't push this, just let her know how this is hurting you.
2007-02-23 22:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by donttalkjustplay05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her how you feel. Its also good to have more then just 1 friend. A saying i like is you can never have to many friends
2007-02-23 22:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by sara a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time. Find some other friends who understand and truly care about you. Many times do the successful achieve failure before they succeed. (sry. didn't intend for that to be horribly philosophical)
2007-02-23 22:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by Isabela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋