My wife is addicted to myspace. It all started about four months ago when she was trying to get in touch with old friends. I suggested myspace as it had worked for me. Well now she is addicted spending all of her spare time chatting, posting, blogging and "making friends". Over a thousand. She is losing her sex drive and looking like a zombie. She dosen't smile anymore, and we are starting to argue about it regularly which is now starting to turn into more seriouse arguments. She seems as if she is spending all of her emotional energy on it, and has none left for her family.
Addiction runs in her family, but she does not drink,drug,or smoke. Could this be it? I feel that we are entering a downward spiral and I do not know what to do.
Our realationship was pretty healthy and posotive before hand, for being together seven years w/child. She also is on the computer all day at work, so that is not helping any.
2007-02-23 14:35:23 · 8 answers · asked by Jungleboy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
(Marriage)
2007-02-23 14:36:38 · update #1
Thanks for the advice everyone. I did sit down and try to talk to her in a rational manor. I ended up deleting her account, and she hated me for a day and actually said she was going to leave me. This morning (her birthday) she came to me and sincerely appologized for her behavior and thanked me for what I had done. Just shows you can be addicted to anything.
2007-02-27 12:23:35 · update #2
Jungleboy, you need to be telling this to your wife instead of strangers. We can't help you except give you advise. If she wants her family she will stop. Let her know that you will not tolerate the amount of time she spends on there. Make dates with her and take her out to the movies or dinner. Let her see how much you want to have the other part of you back. If this doesn't work then you and only you can make a decision what you next move will be. Good Luck
2007-02-23 14:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might really want to be careful with that. Myspace actually ended my cousin's marriage. Well Myspace was the beginning of the end. How my cousin found out was that she installed some of that Spyware (Net-Nanny or something like that). Totally undetectable. It was taking pictures every second that he was logged on. He turned out to be someone that she didn't think he was. Maybe you should try it. I normally wouldn't encourage spying, but if you think it would help your marriage to find out why she is so addicted to Myspace then go for it. Good luck......
2007-02-23 14:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by stldiva22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude, i hear you man, i have quite an addictive personality myself, been there done that with the drugs, booze, etc, etc, etc. i was on myspace for about 6 months when i realized the last two months of my time most of my conversations and life experiences were revolving around myspace. i felt entirely isolated and depressed so i deleted my profile went back to the gym and started taking the dog to the park everyday. it is entirely possible your wife is addicted but you do need to discuss it with her. many relationships have ended over one spouses relationship with the computer and you're right her time on the cpu can affect the overall interworkings of your home. good luck and best wishes bro.
2007-02-23 14:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by David W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally know how you feel. We all love myspace. But I dont think it should be all serious as you are saying. If it is that serious to her, and it is coming between your family, then you should have her delete her page. Ask her what is more important... Myspace or her family. Any grown woman should not be addicted to something like myspace.
2007-02-23 15:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by BE HAPPY! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her right away. Just be open and honest with her. It sounds like she could be addicted to all of the attention she is getting. It will only get worse with time. Tell her that you and your child need her attention too. Be kind but stand firm on your point. You also may want to try to pay a little more attention to her so that she doesn't seek that attention over the computer.
2007-02-23 14:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey, im sorry to hear about your wife. uhm computer chatting is very addicting (i met my husband online) ... you need to tell her how you feel. i hear ya about arguments more and more and how there is no need for this action to be taken place. she shouldn't be that addicted to myspace. i have an acct but only when like you said to contact old h.s friends. i would be worried. she will get further and further away if you dont sit and talk about it. hope this helps!
2007-02-23 15:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by okey dokey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk 2 her thru myspace like a stranger...with new guy friend...hope that will work
2007-02-23 14:52:02 · answer #7 · answered by DON 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen closely, unplug the computer, and talk to her about it, tell her everything you just told us. hope it helps.
2007-02-23 14:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋