If you let a married man who's interested in you keep contacting you and you have no intentions of having an affair with him, is this wrong? Will he expect more?
2007-02-23 14:18:55 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He'll expect more. You need to nip this in the bud.
2007-02-23 14:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Catherine♥ 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I don't feel you did anything wrong. I think your old friend who has no class to do what he did was the one all wrong. And hubby didn't help either, I think if he isn't going to listen to you he's saying something else that has nothing to do with the info he picked up. He's letting something else out of his bag and is using this as his cover for it. If he was the understanding guy you say he was, he would have listened to you and he sure as hell wouldn't have gone off on the deep end that you are cheating on him. If you can't talk to him in a day or two, all you can try to do is put it in a letter that he might get the chance to read in some down time and can reflect on what you are saying.
2016-05-24 04:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he will expect more. Ask yourself why a married man would care about getting to know another woman? Whats his business with you? Why would he be interested in contacting you when he has a wife at home. Just because you have no intention of having an affair with him doesnt mean it might not happen in the future. Don't let him turn you into a home-wrecker. You should tell him to leave you alone and that you arent interested in staying in contact with him. Especially since you KNOW he is interested in you. You know what he's trying to do. My advise would definately be to stay away. Good Luck!!
2007-02-23 14:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it's wrong. And yes eventually he will want more. Probably already does! What is his interest in you? Maybe you have no intention of having an affair with him, but I bet he sure is thinking about having an affair with you. Send him packing fast. Tell him to concentrate on his wife and than go out and get a life. Trust me, if this goes further than it has, you will be hurting a lot of people. And you may even end up with the yerk!!!!
2007-02-23 14:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by Rosaline M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way he's married as you say. but he's contacting you for a reason its not to discuss what the latest sports announcments are. so my guess would be he's interested in you more than just a talking friend cause he could do that with people at his work or a neighbour or buddy.
So chances are if you continue to talk to him he may think oh she likes me she knows im married yet she continues to talk to me maybe theres something there and i'll investigate how far she will go with this. and by the same token if you continue talking to him knowing there will never be anything between you your sending him mix signals. . now how to let him down without hurting his feelings is another matter. let me know if you can figure that out
2007-02-23 21:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is wise to encourage a married guy to continue to contact you. He's made a commitment to another woman and he should honor that. If he no longer finds what he needs with her, then he needs to decide whether to stay married and bite the bullet, or to get unmarried and find someone(s) else. He's trying to have the best of both worlds, which isn't fair to you or his wife. And, if his wife should find out (and does he have kids?), will your "relating" to him hurt her and his family--do you really want to hurt another woman that way just to let this guy have his fun? He'll never be available to you when YOU need him including all holiday, you'll have to wait for him to contact you, if you go out at all it'll always be "sneaking" around trying to avoid anyone who might know him and his wife, you'll never be invited to his home. Is he worth wasting that much of your time on when you could be using it to meet someone who will give you back what you give, will be there for you, won't be playing games?
2007-02-23 14:31:40 · answer #6 · answered by Inundated in SF 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is wrong and could get you in a lot of trouble. I had an affair when I was much younger with a married woman 15 years my senior. I almost got killed by him. It is wrong and I would never date a married woman again.
2007-02-23 14:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey if he is married, you must respect his wife by not being flirtatious and giving into his and your fleshly desires. How would you like it if you were married and your husband was seeing a single hot chick?Not too good, hugh? I would end it immediately, better yet call the wife and tell her yourself what he's been up to, but make sure that you do not sleep with him at all...
2007-02-23 19:44:41 · answer #8 · answered by chris a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong. Forget about wether you have an intentions of having an affair with him or not, it is just not right and I bet you know it. It just that these kind of thing add you some stupid self-esteem. Cut yourself some slack. His wife is the same gender as you. You should be more respectful.
2007-02-23 14:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Of course its wrong !! You know that and you need to tell him~.
Suggest that he work on his marriage .
Tell him that you have no interest in married men and to please not contact you again.As long as you allow him to contact you, that gives him hope for more.
Are you absolutely sure that you aren't getting something out of these calls. Its only going to lead to trouble.~~~Jill
2007-02-23 14:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether the man is single or married, you should not add much importance to the fact. Most of such man's intention is, further
expectations of something from you.So, to avoid any future disappointments, you do some brain-work about his moves
towards you and then decide.
2007-02-23 14:31:39 · answer #11 · answered by orveeor 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋