Well I moved to my hometown about two and a half years ago and about that same time my best friend started using crystal meth. I didn't know this until almost a week ago because he leads a very different life at night and only just confessed this to me. When he did tell me however, I blew up at him. I asked him, rather loudly, why he hadn't told me before and asked hime why he couldn't trust me until now. He was also planning that night to go see 'a friend' who has crystal meth'. I told him the he could not go and this only worsened our argument. Now we are not talking to each other and at school we avoid each other like we have a plague. What should I do? Was the argument my fault? He told me that he has given up drugs but he could have easily fallen back into an old habit right? Should I not have said anyhting? Please help! I have an extremly guilty consious.
2007-02-23 14:05:17 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He has already been to rehab and seen a few shrinks. I just hate not talking to him but my pride is too hurt to say sorry first.
2007-02-23 14:18:03 · update #1
it's only natural to flip out because you care about him,and at the same time it came such a shock that was your first instinct is to be mad.but tough love is needed ,he needs that person to get on him about what he is doing to himself.i just hope he isn't being dishonest with you about getting off the drug just so you won't be upset with him,cause that drug is very much addicting and really it's not that easy to just quit.turning your back on him is not going to help him at all,if anything it could upset him where he will turn to it just as much,that's how they deal with their emotions when they are a let down.they turn to the drug to take away anything that is bothering them.
tell him it is tearing you up inside not knowing where he is going to end up.
2007-02-23 14:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You blew up at him because you care a lot about him. Tell him this, let him know you still care but if he's going to continue doing drugs you'll probably not want to assocaite with him anymore because it'll make you feel so helpless and useless, and you just wouldn't be able to stand watching what drugs do to him. If he's off the stuff, for good, that's good--but it is so easy to get reinvolved with the stuff because it makes you feel good, temporarily and falsely. If he says he's off the stuff, give him the benefit of the doubt the first time (but let him know how you feel about drug use); if you find out he's back to using, walk away knowing he's been warned and he obviously thinks getting high takes priority over your friendship.
2007-02-23 22:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by Inundated in SF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well the fight was not your fault ok he just wants to balm it on you cuz he know its his fault and not he probably hasn't stopped cuz crystal meth is really hard to get off of so right now you need to tell the school counselor or something you need to get him help and if you think that you cant do that because then he will hate you forever well ya thats a possibility but he will thank you when he is off the drug and is alive, cuz that stuff can kill you its not good and he needs help now before it gets any worse and that wont be good so no the fight was not your fault ok but he needs help if you care about him and want him as a friend then help him.
2007-02-23 22:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by JEEP GIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you kinda flipped out at him... ya, i've done that before with my friends, at let me tell you, your opinion means NOTHING to them if you flip out! think if you were him and you confessed to him something extremely hard to say (like a deep dark secret). you'd expect him to be calm and accept it, right? but instead he flipped out at you about you not telling him before about this secret. you'd be mad too if your friend did that to you. since you already flipped out at him, confront him and apologize for your behavior and strongy urge him to stop taking the crystal meth. BUT DON'T TRY TO FORCE HIM TO. you can't make him do what you think is best for him, and that's his problem if he doesn't take your advice. hope that helped =)
2007-02-23 22:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by Trisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I don't see what you said or did as being wrong...but I wasn't there first hand....so maybe there is more than you able to tell...maybe you can only see it from your perspective.
2007-02-23 22:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋