My husband is so selfish, he keeps telling me he'll change do you think he will? it's been 10 years, always buying him things and making sure his health is good and his needs are met even his college and nothing in return what do I do, we have no kids together, and I am in my 30's do I keep holding on and pray he will change or what?
2007-02-23 13:56:40 · 9 answers · asked by Gina 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men don't "become" selfish. They are raised that way...most of them anyway. Momma is always waiting on them hand and foot, so they expect their wives to as well. No he isn't going to change. He has been this way his whole life. It's "normal" to him. He is a grown man. If he can't look after himself a little bit right now, then maybe he needs to go back to his momma. It's time to take care of yourself, your needs and your wants. If he doesn't like it, tell him why you are looking out for yourself for a change. If he still doesn't like it, remind him where mommy lives.
2007-02-23 14:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I doubt he 'became' selfish. I imagine he's always been selfish, and you've simply been hoping that he'll change. Chances are it's not going to happen, at least not without some motivating factor. As long you're allowing him to have everything he wants while you do without, then what would motivate him to change?
2007-02-23 22:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After 10 years? Do you really think he'll change? I know I wouldn't. Besides what motivation is there for him to change? If I had everything handed to me I wouldn't have any reason to . Stop being his door mat and demand he change cut off the gravy train.
2007-02-23 22:07:18 · answer #3 · answered by tiki/more 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he hasn't changed in 10 years he's not going to. He's taking advantage of you and you're letting him. When your relationship is based on what you hope he'll become, then you know it's time to go.
2007-02-23 22:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he didn't BECOME selfish, he has always been selfish, you just ignored it before, now it's like a giant wart on his nose with a black hair growing out of it........he is what he was.....and what he will be
2007-02-23 22:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't change and you can't make him change either! So, I would move on and find someone who will treat you better and like an equal.
2007-02-23 22:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
as long as u are doing everything for him he will remain just who he is. seek therapy if he won't go, u go for your own sanity. if u are really unhappy maybe therapy will help u decide where to go with this.
2007-02-24 06:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
THE OR WHAT IS GO FIND SOMEONE THAT APPRECIATES YOU AND QUITE WASTING YOUR TIME. YOU'RE IN YOUR 30'S SO DON'T WASTE ANYMORE TIME WITH THIS FOOL.
GOOD LUCK.
2007-02-23 22:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
we don't change
2007-02-24 02:58:18 · answer #9 · answered by kittykat2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋