I'll try to make this as short as possible.. Um.. when my boyfriend & I met, he was going through some things with his ex. It was an instant attraction between us. He told me that he wanted to be a comendian and was going to NYC to pursue it. As our friendship grew, he told me that he had a baby on the way, and that he had to go be with his baby. He also said he wanted to be with me.
Then all of a sudden, a girl named Liz popped up. He put me on a waiting list. He said he didn't know who he wanted to be with b/c he liked both of us. As time went on, we got closer, and soon as he found out I was a virgin, his mind was almost made up. I almost think that if I wasn't a vigin, he would've chose Liz. So, he claims to like me so much. But he never asked for my number. Yet, he had been to Liz's house. So, last year on Valentine's Day, he aksed for my number. We've been talking ever since. We got together March 30. But we've had problems.
All of a sudden, his ex isnt having a baby.
2007-02-23 13:55:57 · 16 answers · asked by precious_angel321 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He claims that she was lying about that. After I lost my virginity to him, I started seeing strange numbers in his phone. Some of them would say 'Pretty Babygirl' or 'Sexy Lady'. But, it wasn't my number connected to those numbers.
He has promised to stay faithful, and so did I. He's a great boyfriend. He pays attention to me. Loves to just be with me. But, we had started planning a lot for Sweetest Day, and when the day came, he had to go 'play basketball' with his cousin.
Then two days before my birthday, he sent me a text message saying 'I love you Liz.' I was heated b/c I'm not Liz. He immediately called with an excuse saying that he was only playing.
Then just yesterday, I found out that he still has Liz's phone number in his phone. If he really wants nothing to do with her, why would he save her number?
Today, he tells me a huge opportunity came up, and he has to leave for Cali on Monday for 6 months to begin his career. Thats fine. I support him, but he also has an
2007-02-23 14:03:29 · update #1
He also has another girl in Cali that he used to go with. I really need help with this. I dont want to actually believe that he is b/c I've invested so much time into this relationship. Does anyone think he is cheating?
2007-02-23 14:07:04 · update #2
Correction:: I guess I was typing too fast. I didn't spell check... But, to correct what I typed, I didnt lose my innocence to him yet.
2007-02-23 14:29:12 · update #3
If he can't decide between you and another girl then he isn't going to be giving you the attention and affection you deserve even if he DOES choose you. You should never have to go out with someone who can't decide between you and someone else, that would be horrible for the self-esteem! You want someone that makes you feel special, trust me. You're probably really attracted to him (seeing as how much you're letting him get away with without giving up!), but if you can get over it for a while and wait until you find someone who really wants you for who you are instead of anybody else, and not just because you're a virgin, you'll probably avoid alot of pain. This guy sounds like he's not as into you as you are into him, and he even sounds like a bit of a sketchbag in general, so he's only going to end up hurting you.
2007-02-23 14:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Follow your gut me personally I think that his ex having a child was a cop-out so that he would not have to be with you. YOu telling him that you are a virgin made him all excited because I hate to be so blunt but some guys like taking girls virginity they think that it is a game. I feel that even though your heart is telling you yes, follow your head on this on and think logical. He is playing you because you are allowing him to. He feels that he can get over on you because you are so in "like/lust" with him. No one deserves to be on the waiting list. I believe everyone knows deep in thier heart of hearts weather they want to be with some one or not. I suggest just let go, I know easier said than done, but start ignoring him, I bet he will come around and then, by that time you will have moved on. Good luck and do not let him play you like a video game.
2007-02-23 14:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds kind of fishy. Usually your gut instinct is right.
If I were you, I would sit him down face to face and have a heart to heart chat. Tell him what you feel and tell him what you want in a relationship. You have to have honesty and communication in every relationship. Tell him why you believe he isn't honest. If he cannot be honest, you will find someone who can be. You deserve someone who is honest and can communicate.
It sounds like he doesn't really know what he wants in his life either. You need to talk about both of your goals. You stick to your beliefs and your faith. Every relationship has problems, it is how you are able to communicate to work them out together. It takes work and both parties have to put 100% of effort to make it work. Best wishes to you.
2007-02-23 14:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you know he is cheating. Let's keep it real. He is a player and you are allowing him to play you. He is doing all the things you allow him to do plan and simple. I was in a similar situation whereas I met a guy who claimed to be over his ex. As time went on I found out he was still with her. Dam it hurt, I had feelings for him by then. Once I found out I had to move on because I realized he was never gonna be mine, time heals all wounds. MOVE ON!!!!
2007-02-23 14:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by ~Secretrose~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing about this guy sounds right from what you typed. He sounds like a liar. TRUST is def. needed in every relationship in order for it to last. From what you typed you can't trust this guy. He doesn't even know what/who he wants!!! Why make yourself sit around for a man that probably wouldn't do the same for you?
2007-02-23 14:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by Daisy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stranger danger...beware this guys aint telling you the truth about anything. I say go to greener pasturs and find a honest guy that won't keep you guessing. It's a big world out, just keeping kissing those frogs.
2007-02-23 14:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by Beachbum 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I sorry to say it but man all the signs are right in your face, you just don't want to believe them, you want to trust him, I would not trust that man, if my life depended on it, but that's me, you need to decide, and I do believe the only reason he wanted any thing to do with you, was cause you were a virgin.
2007-02-23 14:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by Terry Cat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U r chasing a mirage. A person who is flirting so many girls at the same time cannot be steady life partner.
2007-02-23 16:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, look in the mirror. Do you see a smart girl that was raised right or do you see a fool? Drop this loser FAST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Do you hear me? Change your phone number quickly, you deserve MUCH better. He is a JERK. Capital "J". DUMP him now or I am calling your mother!
2007-02-23 14:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by amazedmaize 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you that Men will say things that you want to hear for you to be with them. Be careful next time
2007-02-23 14:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by bittersweetlove21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋