Depression?

Question

I used to have an addiction. I stopped that addiction without the help of therapy. Now, I know why I needed that addiction because it used to make feel happy inside.

Now, no more addiction. I feel so stressed out. All my friend have a boyfriend or had a boyfriend But I never had a boyfriend. That never bother me before but now that I'm 18, it bothers me.

I am putting a stress on myself to study atleast 6 hours a day. Well, I am NOT good at anything else so I have to be atleast good at school.

Answer 1

You might not like what I am going to say but here it is anyway.

I am sure that you hear this alot but 18 is young. You have a lot to look forward to in life. When people tell you life is SO different out of school (high school and college etc) believe them.

Best advice anyone here can give you really is, hang in there. In fact I just told a freind of mine about your question here, I am going to paste what he says for you!

My friend : "Tell them the price of virtue goes up as you get older,and to not let the tide of todays society drown out that inner voice,,,"
My friend : "they have to ask themselves 'what is making them feel this way,,, is it 'them' or the pressure to confrom to a societal aspect,,?"

Kristina K: wow hun (That's me, Kristina aka Kristy :P)

My friend : "i have had my bouts with things i have come to realize that to wait and learn is the best. then when all things evaluated you know when the right person comes along because you have waited and evaulated things and learnd just what it is you like in potential mate

I think he is starting to go on, I hope this helped a little. This is my friend he is in his 40's and these are his own words.

Good luck in all you do and have a great night!
*Pink Ellie*

Answer 2

First off let me just say that I am very proud of you that you stopped your addiction, I know that was very hard for you to do in the first place, so give yourself a pat on the back for that, and give yourself one from me, you do not need an addiction to make you happy nor a boyfriend, for that matter, you are stressing yourself out.Your 18, you want a boyfriend, you study all the time, cause you seem to think that is all you are good at, I bet if you sat down and tried you could come up with alot of other stuff that you are good at, whether its at school or not, your putting yourself down, you need to bring your self-esteem up, way before you even think about getting a boyfriend, stop being so hard on yourself, your only 18, read up on stress and self-esteem, once you get that under control, you'll be good as new.

Answer 3

Hi, well there has got to be other things that you find interesting! It's great that your studying but there are so many other things to do. When I'm depressed I just sit and think what am I so depressed about now, I've come a long way from where I've been and I need to do something to make myself feel good. So I go by something new, go for a walk, write in my journal, call a friend or family member, watch something funny on television, have a nice snack, there are just so many other things to do with your time and you don't need a boyfriend to be happy! one day yes, this great guy is going to come along but before that happens you need to get back to you first and be happy with your life. You need to start smiling and getting out and doing things. Be proud of yourself for getting through the tuff times, your a very strong person, you can get over this depression it won't take long!

Alright well good luck.

Answer 4

when you stopped the addiction without help you have just substituted something else in your life in its place ....You need therapy to help you find out why you were addicted in the first place solve that problem or problems and the getting on with your life will be much easier .... still keep seeing the therapist on a much less frequent basis to make sure you do not slip back into some old behavior patterns....good luck You can do this....

Answer 5

Way to go on coming to the understanding that addiction is a dead end street. You are good at something; you just haven't found it yet. Your strength will be tested many times and I will pray for you to remain strong. You need to begin to believe in yourself because you are in control of your ride through life. Love your life, it truly is a gift. Don't ever think you need someone else to make you whole or complete you because only you can do it. A boyfriend will come in time (believe me waiting and dating is a big bonus).

Answer 6

while no expert on addictions (besides having a few of my own...) I do know that any time you quit something you have to substitute something else for it: exercise, drumming, knitting... whatever.. this not only fills the time, and void, left by your former activity, but it also leads you towards you passions... and AFFIRMS who you are... you need real affirmations in your life... things/ people that make you realize your inherent self-worth... what brings you true happiness? dive in... and enjoy your life!!! this is a lesson we all have to learn, and you should be so grateful to be seeing it at such a young age....

Answer 7

Try to think about good things,it's hard and it takes practice,but you'll never know true happiness until you know Jesus.If you drink from the water he gives you,you will never be thirsty again(you'll be satisfied).All you have to do is ask him to come live in your heart and then get a bible you can understand,like the amplified bible,then true happiness will come to you.I've tried everything,drugs,sex,ect.those are all paths that lead to destruction and those are all things that satan uses to keep you away from Jesus.If God didn't love you He wouldn't have sent me to tell you this.

Answer 8

are you sure you aren't good at anything else? you have to focus on what you can do and forget what you can't do. There are a number of career assessment tests you can tests. Career Direct is a good one. It costs about $100 and is worth every penny of it, it will help you identify your interests and skills.

It sounds like you are trying to punish yourself. You don't get good at something by punishing yourself, you get good by finding something you ENJOY and doing something you LOVE DOING.
Don't worry about money, don't worry about what people think, just do what you like to do.

Answer 9

i don't think it depression. its just that you are interested in your studying more that means you think about your future that will benefit you! it really doesn't make any difference if you have a boyfriend or not since you are thinking about your future that means when you grow up you'll have a good job and a good income and choose who ever you want!

Answer 10

I found some good information on depression as well as treatment to cure it etc here http://xrl.us/u3ww. Seems to have some good advice and should help you.