My husband thinks that paying bills is all there is to it. Does marriage have more responsibilities?

Question

We have three boys and they are all on three different basketball teams.

I am a preschool teacher full time. I cook, clean, wash, fold, iron, wash the truck, oil change, maintenance, grocery shop, homework, practice, games, school functions, drop off and pick up from school. He changed the hinge on the door and asked me if I saw what a good job he did. I almost screamed. And on top of that I had to go to Lowe's to buy the hinge. I have 10 basketball tickets that were given to me and he hasn't offered to take the boys. Oh because he doesn't like basketball. I asked my best friend's husband to take them. I left out a very important fact, two of the boys are mine before marriage and we gained custody of my nephew. We were together for two years before he got married and he was so much better. I am really considering divorce.

Answer 1

Marriage definitely has more responsibilites than just paying the bills. Your husband should be helping you raise your three sons, like taking turns driving them to basketball practice. He should also be helping with the house chores, like raking the yard or grocery shopping. Most importantly, your husband should be providing you with emotional support and treat you good. I didn't realize how much responsibility marriage comes with but it's alot of work!

Answer 2

No, that's not all there is to it. He should be willing to take the boys some times to their basketball games. Do some yard work and be involved in a few other things.
That may be all he saw from his father so he thinks that is it.
I hope he still shows you that he loves you.

Answer 3

Yes marriage has a lot more to it than payin bills! Anyone can pay bills & not b married. Especially if u have children then there are even more important things to worry about in a relationship than jus bills....bills.....and more billls.

Answer 4

HA, I'm not even married and I know the answer to that. You have a husband and 3 kids and are asking if there are more responsibilities?....where have you been all this time?

Answer 5

Thats definatly not all there is to it. The kids are not just yours, yes you gave birth to them but he took part in that also, he should do just as much for them as you do. There is definatly certain stuff that only a mother can do (like kissing a bumped head) that well dad just can't fix, but he does need to take a little responsibilty for them.

Answer 6

okay im not married im way too young..but i know...that in a marriage..you should think back to when you first dated...did you have fun?! well what changed?! why did it?! it shouldnt have! you have three boys...you love them..i assume..include yourself in their life..i mean heck go on vacations have fun! what did your parents do..or your friends parents do when you were younger...no bills are not everything..you have a family to take care of as well! but bills are important dont get me wrong

Answer 7

paying the bills is a major responsibility.
what does the boys basketball teams have to do with it?
maybe i missed something here????

Answer 8

This is something that I get accussed of.
Working and paying the bills is a full time job. I also have three kids that do different sports. I know I don"t need the grief from my wife when I get home and get all that " marriage has more responsibilities " crap.

Answer 9

Of course there is more to it than paying the bills sounds like he is an uninvolved father but your question is unclear and has too few details.

Answer 10

ummm.yeah. there is a whole lot more to marriage than paying the bills. like intimacy, and caring , and friendship. If he is only concerned with the bills, then remind him you could pay the bills all by yourself if need be....