Recently, I've found myself looking at my best friend in a 'more than friendly' way, and I am unsure as to whether or not I should just tell her straight out how I feel, or hope my feelings will change. We've always been close, and quite touchy feely, but I've noticed the way she touches me is different, and sometimes I catch her looking at me in a way, that makes me wonder if she may feel the same way too. She's always been known as a bit of a 'goer', and she's always been into men, drugs, drink etc. since I've known her. People have always told me to steer well clear, as she's 'trouble' but I can't help myself. She's told me once (after a few too many) that she would have sex with me any day of the week, but I want more than that. It's like she's told me I'd be just 'sex' but the way she acts tells me different, as if she is leading me on because she loves the attention. Do I tell her straight out how I feel, or try and convince myself she's 'no good' & hope it will pass? x
2007-02-23 13:40:04 · 9 answers · asked by Gemma L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm a girl lol..! And the reason I haven't told her, rather than writing it on here is because she isn't really the kind of person you can talk to on that 'level'. It's in her nature to be a complete b*tch at times, and she is quite self centered, which I don't mind but it makes it quite hard to talk about how I feel to her x
2007-02-23 13:57:52 · update #1
how come you can be outright and honest on here with a bunch of total strangers? yet this good friend of yours is oblivious to your feelings? you really must be honest and talk to her face to face about it and not put it to us lot on here! you know her, we don't so go ahead and talk to her of your feelings, she will love you for it.
2007-02-23 13:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by karen464916 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a pretty interesting questions. You know us "bad girls" sometimes can fall for the right guy. So, I would be "aware" of what others say about her, but I wouldn't judge her as "no good".
She has been your "best friend" hasn't she? The big question is do you have feelings for her beyond being a "best friend"? If you do I would have a straight upfront, no punches pulled, talk with her.
Tell her (1) You will not be a one-night stand or "toy boy". (2) You want more than that with her because you respect her and her friendship and you won't become a booty call and ruin that friendship. (3) As her where she wants your relationship to go and what she wants.
Stick with your standards ... and honey ... if she doesn't recognize a great guy . . . like your writing shows . . . give me a call.
2007-02-23 13:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get her to talk to you about it seriously- if drunk its almost like a cop out- or may end up with one of you saying something hurtful to the other- eg laughing at a serious statement- the laughter may be the alchohol talking.
Also people tend to get drunk and say things they dont mean, thats the alchohol talking.
Maybe -if she knows you are gay but doesnt know you are o into her, drop a reamrk such as "its a shame that your only after a fling with me if it was more I'd have you any day of the week" or words to that effect.
Watchout if shes got rumours flying around her though, when your heart breaks for the first time it can scar quite deeply.
2007-02-23 13:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've found myself in this situation, although the friend isn't considered "trouble".
I would say tell her how you feel. It is the hardest thing in the world to do but wondering "what if?" is even worse. Since she's considered "trouble" I'd be extremely careful. But nothing bad can come of telling her.
2007-02-23 13:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by All I can be is me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe your friend enjoys the attention, that she doesn't take seriously what she says when she is drunk and that although she cares for you may not see you as a romantic prospect. I wouldn't say the girl is no good but just that maybe shes got other issues in her life she needs to sort out before it would be a good idea for you to try to get romantically involved with her. what you really need to decide is whether it is worth risking your friendship xXx
2007-02-23 13:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by bamba_982 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be filled with regret for the rest of your life ? ...I say go of it..tell her you want her and that you are in love with her man. If you don't you could lose her. But if you don't you will lose her and you never even tried to tell her how you feel.
Though it may not be love per say, you may wanna be her knight and shining armor,to save her from her demons of booze and sex with guys that she don't know. Stop trying to save her cause she doesn't want it..She can only save herself.
But if you do love her love her tell her now. You don't know until you try.
2007-02-23 13:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it you are having strong feeling for you friend you should try to make some time to get her attention and try talking about your feelings. i am sure it will help the two of you figure out what you both want..
2007-02-23 14:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seem like she likes u and at the same time she is kinda leading you on, but i don't know for sure. she may like you like you like her and that is her way of showing it. juss keep on hinting to her and maybe she will tell you how she feel or maybe u can.
2007-02-23 13:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by mandy iz a cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first two answers say it all.....
2007-02-23 13:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by T M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋