a lot of my guy friends like me and i dont know what to do. i dont like any of them and they wont leave me alone. ive tried letting them down easy but they just dont seem to get it. i dont want to weird a good friendship.
2007-02-23 13:39:42 · 4 answers · asked by karategirl2563 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You must stand firm and let them know you are uninterested. They will get over it. Ultimately, do what's best for you. In addition, letting them think you're interested is still leading them on and that is unhealthy for them.
2007-02-23 13:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by Blarepen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my dear god. Honestly I am going to save this in a text file so it's easier to repeat.
Women like to deceive themselves into thinking they can have "guy friends". They cannot.
As long as he draws breath, if you let a guy hang around you, no matter what he says to you, he'll think he has a shot at getting your panties off in the very near future. Don't believe me? Ask each one, "If I showed up at your house wearing high heels and a smile, would you let me in and make sweet love to me all weekend, even if it meant we could never see each other again?" They will all answer with a resounding YES.
Why? Because guys have three lists in their heads:
[1] women they want to screw but haven't screwed yet;
[2] women they have already screwed;
[3] women too hideous to screw.
and we do NOT hang around [3]'s. So which number are you on their lists?
No wonder they won't go away. You, the attention whore that you are, keep asking them to stay around, so they think they have a good chance of banging you.
The only way to get them to go away? Ruin the "friendship" (the teasing that you do so they'll stay and give you attention, in other words) by saying, "I have been cruel to you by acting like I was interested when I was not. I will never EVER have sex with you -- even if we're the last two humans and it's to save the species. I am sorry but I am so needy I do lots of phony flirting to keep a stable of guys around me so I feel validated."
Most of them will catch on if you say this to them 3 or 4 times.
2007-02-23 21:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen When Harry Met Sally? Can a man and a woman be friends? I personally believe that it is possible, but the guy has to be the one who can make it happen. Chicks can get any guy, any where, to do just about any thing. Try this. First, clarify your position as friend only and ask for advise about some hot dude you're interested in. Only a good friend would give you honest advise. It's too personal for anyone to really give you good advise onl. And yes, most guys do want to have sex with you. It's in our nature.
2007-02-23 21:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by Espinito 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a little bit conceited. Maybe your friends are just being friendly. Don't read thing into things that aren't there. Just be honest with them. Guys appreciate that.
2007-02-23 21:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by hotmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋