What is the reason that forces the man to get his emotional and physical needs fulfilled outside his marriage?

Question

Even having found some one so intimate and fulfilling, why he still find it difficult to get detached from his family (legal wife and children). Why he wants to have both his family as well as this someone special (who is also married, and is not divorced). Is this just related to sex? Are there any evidences that man returns back to his family, leaving this someone special to suffer, after his sexual desires are fulfilled, and is it related to any age of a man.

Answer 1

He's not getting them met INSIDE his marriage.

If he's not willing to leave his family, it's more likely to be for the sake of his kids, rather than for his wife.

And if you're the other woman, you're evil for trying to make him do something that would hurt his children, no matter how much his wife deserves to get dumped.

Answer 2

I'm not sure a man should stray during a sexless marriage. Sex doesn't exist in a marriage anyway, does it? There's other things a man can do besides straying such as - Bangbabes - Channel 905 - Bangbabes 2 - Channel 906 - Bangbabes 3 - Channel 907 - Busty Mommas - Channel 908 ...I could go on but Eurosluts is about to start on Channel 909.

Answer 3

I don't think that their emotional needs are necessarily fulfilled outside of their marriage. But as far as the physical goes, I think it's because this aspect of the affair is exciting, challenging, and new. It's the same reason that some men climb mountains, but not all of them are equipped to do that. Of course he wants both his family, who represent his security, accomplishments, and stability, and this someone special. Get a grip - how "special" can the someone he is cheating with, and is also cheating on her husband be? Eventually, he will, if he has a brains in his head, drop the other woman because he will realize that he has more to lose than to gain. As for the someone special having to suffer when he drops her - stick your hand in the fire and you get burned. I think it is related more to many other factors other than age.

Answer 4

I have found that people get married at ages that sometimes are not good ages to marry at. I am not in favour of a man 23 getting married and have 4 children and at age 44 deciding it is so boring now that he needs out after tangling up his finances with a wife!!
a friend of mine once said to me " A girlfriend takes 1 night to get rid of , a wife takes 2 years to get rid of !!"
Guys like to pretend everything is fine for the parents who like to see them settled into a routine and responsiblity. Guys don't want to disappoint the parents so they stay with the situation, secretly long to leave it . Best of both worlds may solve the situation and keep EVERYONE HAPPY.
I find it shortsells the man who deep down inside has anxiety over the secrets he keeps inside.......heart attack or stroke later let's him know he should have left a long time ago and who cares about the fronts he needs to keep up.

To thyself be true!!!

Answer 5

Lack of proper religious guidance/teachings, irresponsibility and lust. All unwed sexual activities (pre/post/extra marital), homosexual acts, & other perverted sexual acts are specifically forbidden in Islam in clearly written unambiguous words. In Islam, unwed voluntary sexual intercourse also is a great sin and heinous crime against government/society punishable with publicly lashing/ death by pelting stones.
Premarital, extramarital or unwed sexual activities are not barred / prohibited and are no offence in any Indian law. Wife’s sexual intercourse with other/s is also no offence, hence no prosecution or punishment to her. Thus a female’s physical sexual relations with persons/s of her choice (with their consent) is not an offence or prohibited / barred in any Indian law and she is at liberty to enjoy SEX freely and fearlessly. A male’s physical sexual relations with any 16+ female (with her consent) is no offence or barred / prohibited in any Indian Law, unless she is in the wedlock of somebody else and is done knowing her wedlock and without her husband’s consent or connivance. Prostitution (commercial sex trade, offering sex for monetary gain) alone is an offence punishable in Indian laws.

However all unwed, premarital, extramarital physical sexual relations are not good, resulting in dissatisfied marital lives, AIDS / STD, and births of bastards/ illegitimates. Such sexual relations put spouses in search for more betters, and destroy joyful marital lives usually resulting in divorces. High % of divorces and children of broken families are threat to the peaceful world.

Answer 6

He lacks integrity, and is a liar and cheater. The same reason applies to both men and women who feel they must get their emotional and physical needs fulfilled outside their marriage.

Answer 7

I think the wife gets boring because he can have her whenever he likes. and probably had her for so long. He probably wants a thrill or a change because he's probably bored or less satisfied.

Answer 8

He wants to "have his cake & eat it too", and the "someone special" is just another notch on his bedpost---he LIES to her to get her in bed, and as soon as the "special" someone wants more than sex, she will be dumped for the next conquest.

Answer 9

first off he is doing it because he is getting away with it.
the "someone special" is doing the exact same thing.
when one of them gets cought the fun will be over and the real fun will certainly begin.
oooooh my, the fur will certainly fly!!!
hope the sex was worth it for both of them.

Answer 10

premarital, extramarital physical sexual relations are not good, resulting in dissatisfied marital lives, AIDS / STD,So why go for it