My friend has a 13 yr old and she sent her to go and stay with her father.(They share custody).Well the father called and said Kim is 2 mths pregnant.When they asked Kim who the father was she said she don't know she's been with 15 guys in a 2month period.The fathers new wife said she had to go,and my friend said to send her back home with her so she can take care of her and help to prepare for being a mother.The father said you're actually going to allow her to have this baby and my friend said yes adoption or abortion is out of the question.Any advice on this?When my friend asked me I have mixed emotions.
2007-02-23 13:29:17 · 11 answers · asked by dccuttie75 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think the child should have some input, but I agree with the mom. That's her child and grandchild. Even if they share custody, your friend sounds like she has the deciding vote, so she should make the decision. Maybe this will the wake up call the girl needs. She is SO young. Hopefully, she will be able to pull herself up and still have a productive, successful life, in spite of this setback. I wish your friend luck. She may need your help in many ways.
2007-02-23 13:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Althought the mother to be is only 13, in one sense I can respect the mothers decision.
I have had 2 of my friends that were pregnant teenagers. And they are happy that they went through with the pregnancies and had the babies. If she was to abort the baby, she may wish that years down the road that she didn't becuase of side effects or if she put the baby up for adoption, she may wish that she didn't as well.
As for her being with 15 guys in a 2 month period, after giving birth at such a young age, it may teach her to wise up some and to realize that she was wrong and for her to be more careful. Sex is not something that should be taken so lightly. Having the baby may also teach the teenager some responsiblity.
Wake up and smell the roses sweetie, all actions come with consequences!
However, good luck to the family and their decision, and if she choses for her daughter to have the baby, I wish them luck and I hope for good health for both the mother-to-be and the new addition!
2007-02-23 13:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by newf_chick_1987 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How very sad to pick a thirteen year old's destiny to raise a baby at 13. If abortion is against beliefs, adoption should be strongly considered. A 13 year old is far too young to be forced into motherhood. I feel sad for this girl. Perhaps if the mother is not seeing the options, the girl's father can step in and help her make the decisions to ensure the best future for his daughter.
2007-02-23 13:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i understand the mom not to believe in adoption or abortion, but a 13 cant be a mother so the mom of the 13 is going to get stuck raising a baby, and im sure if she wanted to do that she would have kids for herself, so i would reconsider adoption if i was her. and you should defanitly find out who all these guys are and i would press charges, because there probably a bit older then she is.
2007-02-23 13:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel terrible for this situation on so many levels. First, there is a bigger problem, 15 guys in 2 months? This girl needs to find acceptance and love, and she is looking for it in all of the wrong places. She definitely needs her father, she needs his love and guidance, as well as her mothers. The new wife should be ashamed of herself for turning out this poor misguided child.
The girl needs counseling. She also needs to be checked out for STD's.
As far as the abortion vs adoption issues, I personally do not condone abortion for myself or my children. This mother, father, and child need to pray for guidance on what to do next. I commend mother for saying that she will support her daughter in this. I don't feel it is in the best interest of the girl,to keep the baby. She made one mistake, don't make her pay for it for the rest of her life. She is only a child, she is not capable of being a mother now.Sure she can give birth, but that will not make her a mother. She needs to grow up, cope with her actions, and look for the reasons behind her irresponsible behavior. Next, her mother and father need to question themselves as to what behaviors they may have contributed to. How did this girl have this much spare time on her hands that she could have slept with 15 boys, without either of them knowing where she was or with whom she was spending her time.
2007-02-23 13:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by mischa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a tough situation....but i would think the 13yr old should have some say in whats going on....i can understand the mum having her beliefs on abortion...but adoption is a very sensible option...why make the 13yr olds life more difficult
2007-02-23 13:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont agree with abortion but if your friend wants to put the baby up for adoptiion it should be discussed as far as sex with 15 guys she should be checked for stds and dad should have his but kicked forletting her out of his sight so she could do these guys yea she needs to go to her mmom she wasnt preg when she left
2007-02-23 13:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by Catie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abort the fetus and sterilize the thirteen year old. Then try to get her head straightened out, geez!
2007-02-23 13:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So, who is prepared to raise this child? 13 is young to have a baby. What kind of supervision does her mother give her if she is so promiscuous???? Is this someone you want raising your child?
2007-02-23 13:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i agree that she shouldn't get an abortion or just give the baby up. for one she would regret it badly later in life and two, she needs to learn that her actions have consequences.
2007-02-23 13:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋