I gave birth Jan 26 and i am so in the mood again to have sex with my husband. It has been 4 weeks exactly. I know they say to wait til your 6 weeks check up but i feel ready after teh baby i am wanting the physcal relationship with my hubby. Is it safe? I didnt have an episonotmy but i sdid tear in 3 small sopts on the inside and i looked and my stictches are gone but it looks almost like there is a tiny little blue spot where they were, nothing big. Is it ok to I am kind of scared......
2007-02-23 13:22:16 · 22 answers · asked by kenneth s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
the longer you leave it the better it gives your muscles time to tension up again the area down there will still be some what loose at the moment and i would hate for you to be dissapointed also there is still a risk of infection at this point.
remember to use protection as you are extremly fertile for the first few months even if your breastfeeding i fell pregnant while breastfeeding and on the mini pill when my daughter was only 6 weeks old.
its just a myth that breastfeeding is a reliable for of birth control its total jargen i never even had my first period now i have 2 daughters one is 19 months the other is 8 months now thats doin it.
i think you should just wait a few more weeks or atleast untill your doctor says its ok ang get into it im glad some women still feel like it lol goodluck.
2007-02-23 13:29:07 · answer #1 · answered by nomorebabieshaha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you feel comfortable with it, I'd say that you should give it a try. Just explain to your husband that you might not be able to get through the whole thing. If you can't take the pain, he will need to understand that the both of you will have to stop. Even if you stop, there will be other ways to make sure that the both of you feel satisfied.
I had sex with my husband four weeks after. It hurt like heck, but it was worth it. My doctor asked at my six-week checkup. I told the truth, and lightning didn't strike me down. She just gave me a small look.
Most doctors do not believe that you will wait for the six-week checkup. Why do you think that they ask that you take a pregnancy test then?
If you do have sex, just remember to use protection. Your cycles are still out of whack, so you really don't know when you'll start ovulating again.
2007-02-24 17:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by jessicabee78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Stop! Did you already forget how that baby got there in the first place? Besides the fact that your taking a BIG chance on getting pregnant again already, And your body needs time to heal, inside and out. You really need to wait! Those feelings will still be there when your body is ready. Even if it is not painful right now, your still so close to your delivery date that your taking a big chance of getting a infection.
Wait until you go back to your OB/ GYN at your 6 week check up and talk to them about Sex and birth control.
2007-02-23 13:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by Theresa W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the reason they say 6 weeks is to give you time to heal without the increased concern of infection. however if you are healed and are confident on having sex again go ahead! Just make sure you are comfortable about it and at first take it nice and easy. If it hurts on the other hand STOP! when i had my son i had sex a week later and there were no problems.
2007-02-27 10:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by moore_256 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please wait. Women who do it sooner are risking infection and a quick repeat pregnancy. Plus, even if your hormones are saying go for it, your body just went through major trauma. Let it heal. I waited 8 weeks to try and it was awful ... 5 months passed before sex was normal again. And my husband was patient (annoyed, of course, but patient) because that's what good husbands do. Enjoy your baby. Sleep when the baby sleeps. Cuddle with your husband but wait for sex. The doctors know what they're talking about when they say 6 weeks. Trust them.
2007-02-23 13:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are faking it. Hormones determine when you are in the mood for sex and you just had a baby for crying out loud and your hormones are not in gear this soon after a child is born.
If you are "scared" your not in the mood. Wait another couple of weeks and talk to your doctor.
2007-02-23 13:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll know when you try, if its painful maybe you should wait and give yourself a little more time to heal.....I had sex for the first time only 3 weeks after the birth of my daughter and it was fine for me.....i guess it depends also how much healing you have to do....i had no tears and no stitches......but take it slow and just try.....
2007-02-23 14:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most doctors will tell you 6 weeks regardless if you have had an episonotomy, but not everyone is the same. I am thinking the best thing would be to talk to your gynecologist, he would probably know best. Either way good luck, and congrats :)
2007-02-23 14:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by cbrandi199 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I agree with mumof2girls up there. You'll risk infection and if you do it later on when everything is healed properly you'll be alot more firm in that area. There is other things you can do until the OBGYN gives you the "ok". Oral might be safe for now, just be careful and be gentle.
2007-02-23 13:43:13 · answer #9 · answered by Alene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying. I think you definitly conceived the end of April as well, not in March. If you conceived in March, your due date would be completely off, and wouldnt be at the end of January. Theres like a 99% chance that the baby is your boyfriends.
2016-05-24 04:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋