I just want your opinion. I'm 14 but many would say that i with my body type am alot bigger and stronger than others in my age group. I know for a fact I am the strongest person at my school. I don't get in trouble at school, get good grades in advanced classes , and try to set the best example I can. I don't like bullying and it really makes me mad so at times I'll use my size and strength to deal with these situations. I don't really fight or anything i say something and it's done in away this does make me feel as if I have a certain authority. I know in a way this also makes me a bully but, if you knew these guys you would'nt have any sympathy Though it seems my rep. has changed it's course. I have'nt become known as a bad guy but not neccasarily a good guy either. I don't think i could turn a blind eye to the bullying. So what should I do?
2007-02-23 13:16:48 · 9 answers · asked by Redhothumanity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sounds like you are doing just fine
2007-02-23 13:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Well I don't think you have much to worry about, I mean your doing great in school, grades are awesome, you don't fight and you don't like bullying. I don't think that it's wrong to stick up for the little guy when you need to and if people have a problem with that then, they need to check their selves. What's going on is your getting more mature and somethings that your friends think are pretty cool and funny you don't look at it the same that's all. Sometimes when you get older you loose friends and it's not anything to do with you, that's just life and you should be nothing but proud of yourself. Stop worrying about what others think and just keep up the good work.
Take care.
2007-02-23 13:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, it's too bad that a nice young guy has to deal with b.s. like bullying and confrontations, when all you're trying to do is get an education and grow up feeling normal and liked by others. Bullies like to provoke, so maybe if they see that they just can't get a rise out of you , they will give up. But, some situations call for more drastic measures, and if they get physical with you first, then by all means, grab them by the throat, and shove em up against a locker, and say "Enough"! Well, that's what I would hope you could do anyway, lol I wouldn't want to see you get in trouble too, just for defending yourself. I wish the schools would really crack down on these puky little punks who wreak havoc on everyone else.
2007-02-23 13:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your intentions are good which is the best place to start but using your size to intimidate people will eventually get you into trouble even if you have good intentions. You wont be the biggest and strongest for ever eventually your peers will catch up with you. It would be best if you learned to deal with injustice through talking and peer support. I would suggest you talk with a school counselor about peer counseling programs. This way you are still able to help and address the problems but through means other than physical intimidation.
2007-02-23 13:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by Christy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A smart, mature person never worries about their reputation. If you always do the right thing, you will be respected by people. And being respected by people is more important than having a reputation. I agree with you. Bullying is wrong. And if you see it going on, it doesn't hurt to step in and stop it. But just remember, someday you are going to have to BACK IT UP. So be ready.
2007-02-23 13:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunetely what makes life hard is having to deal with situations such as the one you have. life is all about living and learning, you are still young so use that to your advantage. i hate to say this but growing up is all about making mistakes...sad but true. try what feels right to you, if it doesnt work for exmple try pushing someone, im assuming you are a man, and realistically lifes a little more physical for us than for women and sometimes you need to stand up for yourself. i myself am not a jump into a fight kinda guy but am also very intimidating, i dont have many problems but then again i am an iraq veteran and my friends think im crazy. you can be one person in public and another in private, just remember that. its what you are behind closed doors that makes you who you are. think about it in five years and tell me im wrong. mancan92@hotmail.com
2007-02-23 13:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by james o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck, no! If you see some kid getting bullied and you can stop it and you don't, that's on your conscience.
However, if you get your way in situations because you're taking advantage of your size, that is bullying. Just use your head. You'll be just fine. :)
2007-02-23 13:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by Melody L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doing it by trying to maintain an open mind.
PS>Don't forget to pray and read your Bible.
2007-02-23 13:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by don_steele54 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS and not be the school enforcer.
2007-02-23 13:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋