We met about 2 months ago and we see each other on weekends only. He is very busy because of his job and can't meet more often. But since I started to call him more often (and usually he is busy to answer my calls), he said that he feel like I try to control him. AlI need just more attention and we talked about that, but he asked why 1 call a day isn't enough for me....I don't want to break up but I don't feel happy in this situation. What I should do?
2007-02-23 12:41:35 · 12 answers · asked by Kate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
girls tend to call a lot. thats just how it is. if you aren't happy then you should move on otherwise you are wasting your time on him
2007-02-23 12:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by gamerguy86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that your boyfriend does not take this relationship as seriously as you do. You want two different things. His saying that you "control" him when you hardly ever see each other is a clear indication that he does not care about you the same way you care about him.
Forgive me for being so bold, but do you sleep with him? Don't answer here! I'm not trying to put you on the spot, but if you are sleeping with him, then I know exactly what is happening here. He has what he wants: a weekend bed buddy. He is using you. If that is the case, it is time to dump his sorry butt and find a guy that will treat you with love and respect.
If you are not sleeping with him, I'm sorry I brought it up. It is just that it is a sure sign of what is going on. If you are NOT, then the problem is likely just a matter of him not being ready for a real relationship. I know you do not want to break up, but think about it. Talk to your friends and family about the situation. See what they think. Make sure this guy is what you really want and decide whether it is worth having a part-time boyfriend. If that is not what you want, it may be time to let this guy go and move on.
Good luck!
2007-02-23 12:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One call a day should be enough. Calling anyone more than once in a day is just bad etiquette and doesn't give them any personal space.
If you want to call him more than that it probably means you need alot of attention, more than most people can provide. You should either learn to be more self-sufficient, or leave him and find someone else who doesn't mind giving you all that attention.
2007-02-23 14:39:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i was kinda in the same thing where me and my ex boyfreind cause we both work two jobs and only see each other on the weekend too and than he think that i was cheating on him at work but i was not. i told my friends that we were going out at that time and i am not the gurl who do the cheating mess and trust my boyfriend to hang with other gurls. i never control guys ever and will not do. talk to him about that and tell him how u really feel
2007-02-23 12:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by adelaide 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really believe you don't want to be controlling.
I do believe however that you want him to think about you all the time because you think about him all the time. I don't want to put you down but this can be very annoying.
Be honest to yourself, look in the mirror and say: Maybe it is me.
If you think it is not you then break up but I think that it will be a problem in your next relationship.
Good luck
2007-02-23 12:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by Bigi Bal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1 call a day should be more than enough especially if he's working
2007-02-23 12:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cant listen to your needs and compromise so you feel comfortable then maybe he dont fee the same way you do. Dont waste your time
2007-02-23 12:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by Wolf woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a guy who WANTS a lady to control him...
2007-02-23 12:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so u just call him once a day,don't let him think that u r too possessive of him.
2007-02-23 12:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so Sunshine.Tell him how you feel if he can't look elseware.
2007-02-23 12:46:15 · answer #10 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋