alrite i've been together for my boyfriend for 3 years off and on well we kinda talked about haven kids but i said i did want to wait till i get outa skool but i've been haven second thoughts i do want to have a baby but i no i dont have a job yet and i doubt i can carry full term because i am 4'10 and 15 years old. I no hes gona be a good dad but hes 17 wich isnt bad at all wen i turn 17 we're gona move in with eachother. now i will finish skool no matter wat it takes i def will
2007-02-23 12:31:31 · 24 answers · asked by Megan c 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You have your WHOLE life ahead of you to wait and have children. While the idea may sound nice at the time it's a huge responsibility. Is this something you could talk to with a family member or friend? Don't let your boyfriend rush you into anything. The way we think about things from when we are 15 to even 20 or 30 or 40 really changes. Just slow down and enjoy what life has to offer while you are still a young adult.
2007-02-23 12:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by alleyshax 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You really shouldn't do that. Having kids at such a young age? It doesn't matter how long you've been together, thinking about kids and stuff in high school can totally flush your life down the toilet, no matter how good of an idea you think it is. Your mind is still developing, and you don't want to do any of this yet, because you will regret it. Finish school and go to college. Get an amazing job, and wait until you're well into your 20's to get married, and then you can move in with each other. Then you can think about kids, but you definitely don't want to right now. And don't let him force you, because that's a big mistake right there. You guys are both way too young. You should go to college and get a career first, so you're successful. Success brings happiness. Then, you guys can get married if you still decide to. After that, you can move in with each other. If you do this, you won't be happy because you'll have regrets. You won't have a life. Just don't do it. I know, I'm 15 also, but I really do understand things like this, and I give amazing advice. I could be a psychologist. I know how to make the right decisions, because I can see the future result of the decision. Thinking about kids now, moving in with each other at 17-bad idea. You want to wait 'til your twenties after you've finished school and have gotten a career. Take this advice from me, your peer. I know that it's a bad choice to do what you're unsure about. Don't do it.
2007-02-23 12:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should probably wait until after you graduate. It's very responsible of you to be thinking about when you want to have a child so that it is planned and you will be prepared (& not shocked LOL). When you are 17 he will be 19 and have a job. If you move in together when you're 17 I'm assuming you won't graduate until after you'r 18 so I think that getting pregnant after you graduate (if you want to that soon) would be the best idea of your choices you said. By then you will have gotten a job, lived with him a while so it's not everything new at once, and be more financially capable of supporting 3 people. Your size at 15 would probably be an issue but when you get older you may have grown or at least by then the chances of having a healthy pregnancy are greatly increased. I'm gad that you are keeping the baby's security in mind & not just your own. Best Wishes!
2007-02-23 12:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
15 is too young to choose to have a kid. end of story. if you really love each other, wait. You should know you're going to be together forever. If you feel like you need a baby to keep you together, then you shouldn't be having one. Because it won't. If you really are gonna spend the rest of your lives together, then waiting until you're done with school and know what you want out of life isn't that hard to do. Do not do it. Don't no no no no no. I can't say it enough. You can't even drive yet. You shouldn't be having a baby until you can at least learn how to spell school properly. Do not do it. no. You say you will finish school, no matter what, but without even your parents to help, are you kidding? You don't have a job, for goodness sake, you're not even old enough to legally consent to sex.
2007-02-23 12:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by Hawaii_girl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your way to young. Finish school and college and everything FIRST. You have to be able to take care of the baby financially. If you don't go to school and get a good job, you won't be able to. You should really wait till you get married or something. Don't you have parents? You shouldn't be moving in with someone at 17. Your not even an adult. Think more, study harder, and worry about having a baby later.
2007-02-23 12:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by Tori 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
hahahaha ,what are you thinking if. you cant even get a job yet what makes you think you're even mature enough to have a baby. I had a baby at seventeen and my so called boyfriend ,love of my life , was seventeen too, well when the baby was about 4 months he broke up me, and is now the typical deadbeat. About 75% of teenage dads or prob more, break up with the girl and don't attempt to be in the child's life. Girl make school your priority, and when you have a good job and good marriage then you can have all the dang babies you want. Talk to your mom, seriously, she was a TEENAGER too.
2007-02-23 12:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah well you know all those welfare trailer trash people who cannot speak or spell, that go on Jerry Springer??? Thats what your question reminded me of. Or maybe maury where the 16 year old girl has to get a DNA test just to prove that your "man" is the father of your child, and he denies it because he doesnt love you or your child and runs away from you, then you won't have any money for formula, baby food, clothes, diapers, anything at all, also you wont have a job, no money, no diploma, no ged, no college experience, no skills, so I guess I'll be seeing you at McDonalds. Or possibly WalMart. Then us people who actually waited and saved money and went to college to make something of ourselves, will have to give our hard earning money to taxes that pay's for you and your baby for welfare just because you all of a sudden wanna play house with your off again on again boyfriend. Hm... Maybe you should think about it.
2007-02-23 14:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
15! you are WAY too young - you are a kid! If you have to ask, you are not ready.
Are you done with school? Can you support a baby? Are you MARRIED? Do you have job? Does your HUSBAND have a job? Do you have an apartment? Are you ready to give up your single carefree life and be an adult, taking care of a baby 24/7 (no help from your "mommy & daddy?"
If any answer is no, you are definantly not ready!!!
2007-02-23 12:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by Dizney 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are way to young to be thinking about having a baby at this age. Off and on? What is that like a couple of months here and there. You are way to young to be making these decisions now and you should wait till you are way older. 17 is a young age to be moving out together especially with how hard it is to do things financially these days. You should wait way longer.. definatly several years like 23 or something. You are definalty way to young.
2007-02-23 12:48:25 · answer #9 · answered by Marge F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry no offense honey but all he wants is YOU AND DAT BOOTY you cant be trusting these guys because all they want is just that one thing and once you do it hes gonna leave you when you become pregnant claiming that he aint ready for a child and he'll just run off trying to get other females pregnant and also its HARD work trying to support a child when you have school job to support child and baby supplies is EXPENSIVE and your still young when you at the mall or whatever and you see something that you really want your gonna be like "i wish i could buy this but i gotta save money for Terrance's clothes" im not trying to discourage you I'm just trying to give you the warning signs
then again its wrong for ANYBODY to do that regardless of AGE
2007-02-23 12:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋