I was at this little party thing at my college and we were watching a short slide with film and this adult guy kept talking to me even though I barely paid attention to him but he didn't notice or care. He kept talking to me - for FOUR hours.
See, after the first hour where I acted pretty much like a wall, I afterwards started talking to him. By the time every one left and some girls practicing dance came in, he kept touching my hands A LOT (he wouldn't let go... every time I moved my hands away he grabbed them again) and said he was a massage therapist who likes to make women feel warm and comfortable. It really creeped me out. He kept touching me on my body talking about reflexology and about how well I may feel comfortable with guys to the point of kissing them. I told him I've never kissed anyone so I could change the subject but then he touched me on my lips with his fingers and said I'd probably be awkward at kissing - that I'm not in my "comfort zone. Then he tried to kiss me.
2007-02-23 12:21:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Every time I said I needed to go somewhere (and I really did - I ended up missing it) he kept saying I was making up excuses. Eventually he asked me to go with him to a restaurant. He's a grown-up in his 30s or 40s and married. I'm 19 and he wanted to drive me somewhere. Of course I said no. It took me FOREVER to make him leave. I'm so creeped out. What do I do? I'm going to see him again at the next party (they have one every week and I always go). *Shudders*
2007-02-23 12:24:24 · update #1
Thanks for the advice. My mother (I told her over the phone) tells me he's manipulating me and I'm being too nice in not leaving (though I tried). She tells me not to stop going to the parties because then he'd be controlling me in making me scared of seeing him there again. I think he's there because he's a dance teacher. (He kept trying to dance with me... and he said he'd give me a free massage, but I said no thanks.)
I do have a friend in charge of the whole party - I guess I should stick by her from now on. But I just feel so creeped out by the whole thing. My mother says that all girls go through this sort of thing and we just have to learn how to deal with these situations.
Great advice mama... *rolls eyes*
I bet she's never had a guy this creepy before... I mean, he was touching and rubbing my hands and arms and stuff... Ew...
2007-02-23 12:52:50 · update #2
You are trying to be too nice. And he's coming on way......too strong. So...politely tell him," Hey. Look. I'm really not interested." If he doesn't take the hint. Say it again. If he still insists on coming onto you, then, go get a friend, preferably male, and ask them to help you out. No violence of course. This guy is in his 30's and sounds infatuated with you. But, he should really date someone his own age. And don't be so....nice. He may be taking your genuine niceness as interest. See what I mean?
2007-02-23 12:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy totally sounds like a psycho freak!! Stay away from the parties for a couple of weeks and maybe he'll stop going. Is there anyone in charge of the parties that you can mention this to? He sounds like a rapist or maybe even worse. I would be watching my back if I were you. Weirdo's like that are usually stalkers and very sneaky too.
2007-02-23 12:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by serenity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to leave you alone! Tell him point blank that he is bothering you, or makes you feel uncomfortable. Chances are, he's totally oblivious to your annoyance to him. However, he could be a "creep" too. Do you have any close guy friends you can bring to the party? You can bring him there and ask him to watch over you... or you two can hang out and have fun together. Heck, you could really get into it and introduce your friend to this "creep" as your boyfriend and he'll probably leave you alone after that.
2007-02-23 12:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by SpaceGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you didn't like him it WAS creepy. I've always said there is a fine line between romantic and psycotic. If I stood under your window, played guitar and sang to you it would be romantic if you had a thing for me but if you didn't you would be thinking how did this guy find where I live and when will he go away and will he keep bothering me.
2007-02-23 12:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by nvr10pts 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your not making that up...that guy was creepy. don't put yourself in a situation for that to happen again (aka...don't go to that party anymore)...or, if you really do want to go to it, then ask one of your friends to stay with you or something. if he tries to take you somewhere again...be aware of where blue lights are that are near the part of campus that you are at (most colleges have a blue light type safety system...use it if you need to!!)
also, i'd contact the college security about this...its serious. keep yourself safe!!
2007-02-23 12:55:30 · answer #5 · answered by yeahyeahyeah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Creepy alert. Don't you know you shouldn't talk to strangers, especially creepy ones? Your in college, right? You should know when you should move away from someone who makes your feel uncomfortable.
2007-02-23 12:25:04 · answer #6 · answered by Tori 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this guy is just a creep who is looking for an insecure girl to screw don't worry just stay away from that party for awhile and he'll lose interest
2007-02-23 14:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm ewww def. CREEPY!!! I'd tell him he was making me uncomfortable and to back off-I think it would def. be wise to stay away from him at the next party! Why is he going anyway????
2007-02-23 12:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by ♥fungirl♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are how old and have never kissed someone?I mean its great that your not like all these other girls wondering if they are pregnant but come on...never even a kiss?He does sound somewhat creepy I would stay away....If his intitals are A.L. please e-mail me....
2007-02-23 13:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by jill@doodle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Major creepy. I would have told him to back off and leave me alone.
2007-02-23 12:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋