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ok, so her and her bf have been together for about 5 months, and she really wants things to work out between them. there have been at least two incidents where i found out that he was cheating with his ex-girlfriend and when she asked him about it he told her it wasn't true and she went on like nothing happened. Now today, another girl told me about this guy she's been hookin up with for a couple of months and when i asked her who it was, she said my friends boyfriends name! now my question is this: my friend's birthday is in a few days... how and when do i tell her?
2007-02-23 12:19:31 · 24 answers · asked by RaNdOmNeSs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ok, she wont believe you unless you have proof! Better not take any chances. You should conceal cameras in your bedroom, seduce your GF's BF to some raunchy naked good times. Be sure to capture multiple positions from several angles. Then post it online and send it to her and all of your mutual friends on her birthday. Got it, Drama Queen?
2007-02-23 12:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by nadsblowhard 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's pretty bad. I feel bad for her. And you seem like a very caring and true friend to this other girl so good for you - every girl needs a good friend like that. Anyways, this guy is a scumbag!!! And she needs to dump him because no girl should EVER have to put up with a guy like that. I understand that her birthday is in a few days and that might make her a little more upset then usual or it might not. I'm not sure. But you should sit her down and tell her you have to talk to her about something serious and tell her that it's about her and her boyfriend. Explain to her what's happening. Tell her everything she wants to know.. all her questions, answer them. Let her know she's better then this guy and that she doesn't deserve any of this abuse and that you advise her to leave him considering she's your best friend. She will cry ... most likely alot since she's been with him for a while and you just need to comfort her and hug her.. just be there for her. Also, be there every minute on her birthday and try to keep her mind off of it!! AND, one more thing... go and hang out with her more often so that she can get out and try to forget about him because it helps alot. Trust me. Good luck and hug her for me too!! =)
2007-02-23 12:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are in a really tough situation. You are going to have to tell her though, its what a real friend would do no matter if its her birthday. If you wait on telling her, shes going to eventually catch him cheating. By not telling her you are just going to make yourself feel guilty for knowing the facts the whole time and not doing anything about it.
2007-02-23 12:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Woody 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her sooner rather than later. But don't tell her in such a way that it seems like there's no room for your error. Say "I hate to have to be the one to bring this up, but so and so told me from her own mouth that she's been hooking up with your guy for x amount of time. I care about you and don't want to see you hurt, so I wanted to be the one to tell you rather than risking that you would find out from someone else and be embarrassed. It may not be true, and I hope it's not, but if it is, I just don't want you to be hurt."
2007-02-23 12:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by greecevaca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must tell her AFTER her birthday you wouldn't like to see her sad during her birthday right?? tell her that she musn't continue to be in this kind of relationship. because this thing isn't right anymore you can also talk to your friends boyfriend and tell her that your friend still likes her and why is he doing these kind of things to her. You may also suggest that they rather break-up than continue to be in the relationship in w/c your friend is to be hurt at all times because of her cheating bf. Tell her that maybe there is someone more deserving to be her boyfirend out there.
2007-02-23 12:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by prettylovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just call her up or even tell her in person don't hold back cuz if the shoe was on the other foot I now you would want someone telling you!!! before you look like the fool for not knowing!!!SHOOT let you girl know that the dog is a dog and not worth the trouble!
2007-02-23 12:25:11 · answer #6 · answered by memjabeana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what day it is--you're friend's bf is a dog and she should know.
Don't tap-dance around it--tell her everything you just wrote here. Tell her you're serious, and that she is too awesome for that guy.
Then, take her out for her birthday or get her really drunk so she has a good time and meets someone else. (if you're old enough to drink, that is).
2007-02-23 12:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by f8_smyled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think fact is he has emotionally moved on - his ego is puffed up after his holiday and he is clearly too immature to consider his girlfriends feelings. She should let him go - he is probably too young to settle down and his behaviour says he does not love her. She can do a whole lot better. She is too youung to deal with this sort of rubbish - loads of guys out there.
2016-05-24 04:08:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the sooner she drops that loser the better off she is, but maybe wait until after her birthday. Try and make a convincing argument and et your facts straight otherwise I am afraid to say it you might lose a friend.
It will be difficult for her so try to support her as much as you can.
2007-02-23 12:23:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
COme out and tell her but not in front of everybody.If you keep it from her too much longer it will hurt her REALLY bad!Make sure you get it across to her.
2007-02-23 12:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by Courtney B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋