She started her menstrual just over a year ago, I told her she needs to have a PAP once a year, even though she's not sexually active she can still develope cysts that if they go untreated could leave her unable to become pregnant in the future. She says no way not doing it. Now she needs a physical to join track and field and one of the questions on the form for the doctor is "genetalia". I told her that probably means a female exam including a PAP smear. She says, "fine I won't join track." I told her she needs to get one anyway she may as well get something for it (getting to do sports in highschool) but she says she refuses. When I think about the doctor using the spectrum on her I cringe, she has made a promise to God to wait to have sex until she's married, so this may sound crude but , I don't want anything (inserted) nothing at all until her wedding night. My question to you guys is... do they do a PAP in a sports physical? Do you think she needs one and how do I convince her?
2007-02-23 12:07:24 · 18 answers · asked by ♥Tawnya♥ 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I guess I gave a couple of you the idea that she could pick up on my feelings about the speculum insertion. I just cringe at that because I'm her mom and I wouldn't want her to be uncomfortable, and I never told her anything about my apprehensions because obviously I'm trying to talk her into it.I also know having one done in no way effects her virginity. I told someone that in one of my answers the other day. Whether or not the hymen is intact has nothing to do with virginity. I also know the PAP doesn't break the hymen because I had one before I had sex and my hymen was still intact. Anyway clearing that up to anyone interested. Thanks for all the great advice, and ideas of some things I can say to her to help me talk her into it. I like the advice of one who said wait till 3 years after her menstual cycle starts. That gives me 2 years to work on her. LOL
2007-02-23 14:49:39 · update #1
I don't think it's a matter of should I make my daughter go for the
PAP, what day do you want to go! She doesn't want to go to the
G.Y.N. well tough because I'm 50 & I don't want to go to mine either! Have her look up on the Computer about GYN's and all
they can detect, Cervix cancer, uteris cancer, multiple deceases,
and make it known that it's once a year. Tell her she's not a kid
anymore, she's a WOMEN now and has to start acting like one, then tell her about the mammogram once a year! Don't give in be very stern with her that she's a woman now and you won't always be there to hold her hand. The GYN does 20-30 a day and she no different. There could be something undetected unless you see this Dr. which may take maybe 5-10 min. and it's
over for another year. But place in her mind this is "What women
MUST Do That is Imperative", then tell her about what Men have
to go threw for Colon Cancer, even I had a Colonoscopy as he
found blood in my stool. My sis went for her routine check-up &
she found early signs of cervical cancer, she was treated and ok
I commend r daughter waiting for sex till married, but unless she
takes care of all parts of her body, she may not be Marriage inclined nor have Children, when she in her youth didn't take care of the "Most Important part of her body in to Bear Children!"
"And am so sorry for u as I'm sure you'd Love Grandchildren"
God Bless you both, I'll say a prayer for you & daughter,
Summer
2007-02-23 13:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by Diana D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The PAP smear is not usually required in a physical, nor is an internal exam. If she is not sexually active then the GYN exam and smear can wait until she's 18. BUT - please do not give her the impression that going for a gynecological exam or getting a PAP smear has anything to do with her virginity or purity. It's about her health. I had a girlfriend in college who was diagnosed with early-stage cervical cancer even though she was a virgin - not all types are sexually transmitted. She thought she did not need a Pap smear or internal exam because she was not sexually active and as a consequence she put her life at risk and had to go through radiation and chemo and became infertile. Your daughter needs to understand that her "girl parts" are just a part of her body that she needs to take care of like her heart, tonsils, or whatever. She will pick up on your attitude about having things "inserted" unless you remind her in a matter-of-fact way that it's just part of a medical exam. It sounds like you two have a good relationship - it's so great that she trusts you and talks to you.
2007-02-23 12:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately, this is a decision that should be decided between you and your daughter. Her sports physical would not include a pap smear. I work in women's health and generally we recommend pap smears if not sexually active three years after starting period if no problems and with in one year after becoming sexually active. If in fact, you both decide to proceed with a pap smear, there are virginal speculums that doctors can use that will not damage the hymen and sometimes the doctor will not even proceed with a pap smear but check the vulva area. Hope this helps.
2007-02-23 12:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by alleyshax 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, during a sports physical a pap test is not performed. What they mean by genitalia is for it to be checked briefly during the examine. They will not do anything else considering your daughter is still young. A sports physical is a look over of the body and it's abilities, as in they are only looking for thinks like (problems breathing, flexibility problems, and any disabilities, etc) not things as in the sort you are thinking. Trust me I am thirteen and have been playing sports all my life and getting sport physicals all my life. She will be fine and don't have her having to worry about something that is not going to happen!
2007-02-23 12:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by ツV3GG!E4L!F3☮ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here is a link to all the guidelines concerning paps. Most of them say within 3 years of becoming sexually active or by the age of 21. I don't think at her age she needs an internal exam just yet.
2007-02-23 12:19:55 · answer #5 · answered by JS 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being a 16 year old girl, I can relate to your daughter. First of all, however, I highly doubt that for a school sports physical she would need to go to a gyno and get a pelvic. Now, as long as she is a virgin and doesn't have any problems with any gyno related stuff, I say you should wait until she's 18 before taking her for a pap. If my mom wanted to take me, I'd scream, cry, swear, hit, push, shove, and kick before she got my feet in stirrups.
2007-02-23 14:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her its part of being a healthy woman. Its really not that bad. Just help her find a gynecologist she is comfortable with. I think all girls should start the process sometime after their first period. They don't generally do paps for sports, but its a good habit to get her started in. Maybe go to the docs for a consultation first so she can feel comfortable with the doctor. And don't be in the room unless she wants you too. Let her feel open to talk to the doc. Good Luck!
2007-02-23 16:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by Becky S 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The "term genitalia" refers to the external part,the internal exam usually isn't done on a girl her age,just routine questions to find out if there are any problems.A MD having to examine a young girl would use a very small speculum if they need to,a Bi manual exam is the alternative.Take care. SW RNP
2007-02-23 12:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
no need to hurry this process especially if there is no family history of feminine cancers in the family. she will know, just like you and I did when we got our first ones. and respect the fact that she wants to be pure for her husband. as long as there are no signs of anything unusuall down there she doesn't need to go until a problem arises or she is 18. at that point she starts young women hood and anything is possible, we all hate them and once she starts it will be a yearly process for her. let her finish enjoying highschool.
2007-02-23 21:43:39 · answer #9 · answered by Halena 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your daughter should have a pap test done whenever the Dr says
It will not break her hymen as the pap is done in the lower vagina
dont be afraid young lady you want to make sure that you are ok for when you do marry and want kids
2007-02-23 12:13:08 · answer #10 · answered by caffsans 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋