that I don't want to be with him anymore. This is seriously getting out of hand. He is still here, and has changed everything about his life to try and prove that he is worth while. Well I have been hurt to many times and I swore that the last time was the last, But I don't have the heart to just kick him out, and to top it all off, We have kids together, so I can't just yell at him to leave. I am so done and want to move on with my life. Advice please! He had problems, I don't think he will ever give up his "issues" and I want to be alone.
2007-02-23 11:29:19 · 15 answers · asked by dazed&confused81 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey I know the feeling. I was in the same boat. I yelled and I screamed when I had enough and he didn't want to go, not because he loved me, but because he had nowhere else to go. I went thru all kinds of changes with this man and kept hoping he'd give up his issues and he didn;t and while I was doing the hoping and praying he was laughing at what a fool and a good woman he had. I can understand when you said'', I just can't yell and put him out. There's others involved as well as yourself and there's a part of you that don't want to let go, because you have hope although the deepest part of you know he won't change, that's why you want to be by yourself. Along side the hurt that he has caused you. Men don't seem to think, that the problems they put you thru will cause you to hate them. Then they wonder why you don't want to touched. Why at the sound of their voice on most days really get under your skin. I know you really want to move on with your life, but until you take that road that is hard for you right now, you will still be living there with him and slowly starting to hate him. I know hate is a strong word, I never thought I could hate anyone, I never knew what it was, but the person I would do anything for, is now the person I wanted to hurt worse than anything in my life, The lies, manipulation, cheating, drinking, drugs, blowing his money and things I can't even say up here. He wouldn't leave and I didn't have the strenght to make him. I learned how to pray. I learned how to tell him "" If you don't leave, I will be dating and going out to do all the things we didn't do with someone else'' and you will see all of this. I want to go on with my life and by your actions, you do as well. Thank you for my kids and all that you tried to do for me and to me, but I need you out of my life. God bless you honey. I'll be praying for you and this hell you are living in.
2007-02-23 12:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are going to have to be the one to leave. People think that staying together for the kids is better, it's not. Children are very intuitive when it comes to tension between parents. If the two of you are not in a healthy relationship, your children are not in a healthy environment. Just because the two of you are not living in the same house doesn't mean that they can't still see their Father and that he doesn't love them. If you explain it to them and are honest with them, they will probably surprise you and be more okay with it then you think they will!
2007-02-23 11:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by Meadow Soprano 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely amazing........did MARRIAGE ever come up in the last 8 years that you two were living together, having sex, and making babies? Another fine example of people thinking about themselves FIRST without giving it a second thought as to how it will effect the kids they created. But hey, I'm sure your kids are going to grow up just fine having a weekend at dad's once or twice a month, and spending the rest of their time with mom and her new boyfriend and his kids!
2007-02-23 11:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are putting way too much on it...Tell him that you are leaving him, give the man a date, get yourself together and GO.......Don't be wishy-washy about it.Do what you need to do for yourself instead of going around the bend with his "issues", because we all have them.
It seems that you keep going back, and for what? Every time you do that you make yourself look like you don't know what you want. Do you want to have a life?? cause you can do this forever.Its really up to YOU!
2007-02-23 11:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Kamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't love him any more than tell him and let him go.. if there is still some love left .. then try to work it out...what is his issues he needs to give up.. is it drinking or drugs.. if so he did not become this way over night and it will not stop over nite.. do you see him trying to change .. if you see him trying and you love him.. give him support for a while.. and if you see no change them tell him he has got to leave..if you don't love him tell him to leave now so both of you don't waste any more time with each other
2007-02-23 11:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to do it. It's not going to be easy, it's going to be really hard. If he wont leave then you have to get the police involved. You have the right to tell him to leave, especially if you have kids. The police and courts are on your side. Be strong, dont "stick it out for the kids", that makes everyone miserable. Good luck to you.
2007-02-23 11:35:58 · answer #6 · answered by daddyferrari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everybody informed me that i'm merciless.. which could undertaking me and that i could opt to take a seem at my habit. All you're thinking approximately is holding your self. in case you're actually not worried approximately this baby and guy -basically your self, do them a want and flow on.
2016-10-01 21:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just put your foot down and make him go. But don't take his kids away from him let him be a father to them just let him know that things between you and him are done and that he should move on too
2007-02-23 11:49:45 · answer #8 · answered by HONEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When there is a problem - and you have one- all you can do is face the person with the truth- NO RUNNING AROUND THE BUSHES! always the truth. that's all you can do, and do it fast cause you have already wasted 8 years of precious life.
2007-02-23 11:38:02 · answer #9 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure to think it over and make sure this is what you really want. He's making an effort, after all. If you really just can't stand it, well, you can ask him to leave. Just do it gently.
2007-02-23 11:36:52 · answer #10 · answered by pisceswoman87 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋