you may marry want to know the details...When the person says..."You know it happened over 25 years ago...and i'd rather not go into details""...do you feel that would shut them up???? honest answers...Because i hate to explain it...again and again..it causes too much grief...(I am not mad either)...it is just frustrating...to re-live it...and i know they would not want to relive stuff either...One guy in the past...when i said that..."he said...i am just trying to get to know you???"...i just said politely..."how is learning about our family's tragedy getting to know ME?"...I JUST FOUND IT ODD!!!
2007-02-23 11:14:54 · 7 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People are curious creatures, don't judge them too harshly. If you don't want to talk about something, just tell them you don't want to discuss it. End of story. There's nothing wrong with that, and they just have to respect it - if they don't, perhaps they shouldn't be around you to begin with. But you WILL be asked; people tend to be very curious and interested in other people's lives - and yes, when someone is seriously involved with you, they do tend to want to "get to know" a lot of details of your past; it's a natural desire. Don't hesitate to draw boundaries in what you will and will not discuss.
2007-02-23 11:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can only speak for myself, but I am curious by nature. I like to know what makes people tick, why they make the decisions they make etc. However, if someone I care about isn't ready to tell me something, or says there is a topic that's off limits, I will try to respect that. But my curiosity will be very high....and I would probably bring it up again, or ask again if it was brought up in discussion after a while. Also, it might be a red flag to me that a person I wanted to marry didn't trust me enough to open up about this one thing, what else would we have trouble discussing? How would we solve issues down the line if it were another subject that 'was off limits."
2007-02-23 19:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe that not everything needs to be brought out for every new relationship. People need to be able to keep things to themselves - full disclosure is a dangerous beast. I don't want to know about my BF's ex wife, or first girl friend or any one inbetween, stuff will come up from time to time and that is the time and place for any extra disclosure if you really feel you want to - people have had experiences prior to their current partner, that is a fact of living. Anyone who insists on you telling them every dirty secret right up front will likely be the type of person to use it against you in the future. Personal tragedies are just that PERSONAL TRAGEDIES - share only what you feel comfortable sharing.
2007-02-23 19:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by Lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll simply say this, if a guy cant respect your personal feelings and space, then he isnt for you. When someone asks you this, tell them you dont want to talk about it because it brings up too much grief and Id rather not deal with that right now. If he still wont leave you alone about it then leave the scene.
2007-02-23 19:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by CheySemone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some people feel it's a way to know the real you...unless of course they are saying it in a malicious way.
2007-02-23 19:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by itsjustchris1968 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened? See its just normal curiosity.
2007-02-23 19:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
curiosity
2007-02-23 19:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋