I have recently been engaged to my cousin(it is all right to marry your cousin in my religion)..I never had any feeling for her before because it is an arrange marrige, but now I love her more than any thing...She lives in US and I live in UK..We don't see each other, just talk each other like once a week only..I want her to care about me and want her to love me as I do.
2007-02-23 10:54:26 · 20 answers · asked by HK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What you want takes physical presence. Over the phone, it might just as well be another person reading a script to you with emotional emphasis in the right places.
Defer judgment until you can spend some time with her.
2007-02-23 10:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...what's your religion? (I'm just curious; it might help me give a better answer....)
Irregardless, it doesn't sound very good if you're only speaking once a week and that you're separated by the Pond. Sounds like you're a bit more eager than she is. You unfortunately don't have quite a fair shot if you're not geographically available, I think.
Honestly, I think your best shot is to arrange a visit: either you come over to the US for a short time or she comes to visit you the UK. The best way to reveal true, passionate feelings is most certainly in person. Unless you've got a Shakespearean writing hand, I'd put my money on meeting her in person as soon as possible and having an honest discussion.
(Of course, if your religion's arrangement of this marriage is already set in stone - just wait until your married and I'm sure she'll learn to love you.)
2007-02-23 19:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by thetragicfigure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol are you serious? You cant build a marriage with her for a couple reasons its not right to marry your cousin, love isnt arranged, you dont know each other, so you cant love her, you might think you do but you dont know her. She isnt going to love and care about you until she knows you. I dont care what religion you are having babies with your cousin can create health problems for the baby, and its wrong.
2007-02-23 19:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force somebody to love you. That is why arranged marriage is not that common these days. And she's your cousin, while that may be right in your religion, it is wrong, if you have children it can have negative affects on them. Don't try and force her to love you, listen to her what she has to say and accept it.
2007-02-23 18:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by blue_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you met this person? Does she approve of the arrangement of her marriage or does it upset her? It's impossible to make someone love you, if they don't want to have anything to do with it. Maybe you should question the values of what your religion is doing to the both of you.
2007-02-23 18:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by principessajordan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I don't understand why you would put you future kids at risk for birth defects and a very hard life. I think that you can find someone outside of the family to talk to and love. You can't make someone love you.
2007-02-23 19:00:18 · answer #6 · answered by tasha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find any way possible to get out of it or the rest of your life could end up a nightmare. It isn't fair to either one of you to be in a loveless mairrage. And since she has no feelings for you, she might end up building a restentment against you in the future.
2007-02-23 19:02:47 · answer #7 · answered by soulmeetsbody9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do you want to get married? Do you want your marriage to be an arranged marriage? If it works out, what will you do? Is it worth it? Would you rather be loyal to your family and romantically miserable?
Questions to consider.
2007-02-23 19:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by Scarlet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So whats your religion,and how far is she your cousin? I think she would need to be around you I dont think that phone talk will help much.
2007-02-23 18:58:58 · answer #9 · answered by g-na 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you want her to feel the same feelings for you as you do for her you have to realize that you can't make people love you. the truth hurts but if she ain't feeling you like you do her then move on before you get to deep and too hurt.
2007-02-23 18:59:38 · answer #10 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋