I love my girlfriend so much. We've been together for 4 years already. She broke up with me since I push her to marry me but she didn't want to marry me. We are each 26 years old. I was very heartbroken that she didn't want to marry me. So, I uploaded a video of her (to lots of websites) stripping in front of the camera that she sent me while we were dating. Is that the right thing to do? I am really depressed about her breaking up with me.
2007-02-23 10:54:16 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're a sick, mean , hateful person and I hope she sues your butt.
2007-02-23 10:57:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'm probably going to get a lot of thumbs down for this, but I don't care, because obviously you are hurting and could use a few kind words. Please don't personalize some of these insults you have been getting. Love is a very powerful force, it can cause you to make some poor judgments when it is taken away from you. Okay, what you did wasn't very nice. But I bet it felt great to do, didn't it?
You should do your best to get these videos removed from the internet. And never tell people what you did! Some things are just better left unsaid.
I don't agree with the people that are saying she was smart for leaving you. What right do I have to judge you based on this one mistake that you tell about on here?! She spent 4 years of her life with you. If she didn't have feelings for you or felt that you were not good enough for a long term relationship, I'd like to think she would have dumped you long before this! It sounds to me like maybe she wasn't ready. Get up, brush yourself off, and live your life. If she loves you, she will realize that she made a mistake. If not, she did you a favor by not saying yes- you could have wasted a lot of time being married only to have her pick up and leave you a few years down the road when she had second thoughts! I hope you feel better soon! (((((Hugs)))))))
2007-02-23 11:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by Monica 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry for your sorrow, but what you did was wrong and you know that. At this point know that when she finds out, there will be no chance of reconciliation. There were many reasons why she broke it off. If you are capable of this, examine all the other things you imposed upon her. Women haters are the worse. You don't love someone by behaving in such a manner. I think you have love and lust confused. Grow up. This behavior is not what a man would do. Have a good year and please learn something.
2007-02-23 11:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by firestarter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where's my copy?
If she didn't want the tape to be uploaded for other people to watch, then she should have known better than to let you make it. After all of the sex tapes that have been made available on the Internet, you'd have to at least suspect this kind of thing would happen if you made one.
Additional: People don't understand that you did this after she broke up with you, so what you did isn't an indication of how you felt about her but how you now feel about her. In other words, it doesn't mean that you didn't love her or weren't good to her, it just means that you don't now.
Also, she was with you for 4 years and wouldn't marry you. I don't view that as her being nice to you, taking that many years away of your life. And if she did this and left you that way, then why would you want to get back with her or even think she'd want to? So it doesn't matter if you doing something like that would make her not want to reconcile with you, since most likely she wouldn't have anyway.
2007-02-23 10:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Um, well, no that wasn't exactly the right thing to do. It wasn't the nice thing to do, but I wouldn't say that you're evil. She made the video and you were hurt and sent it around. I understand that, but now that you sent the video out, don't expect her to EVER come back to you. And, a word of advice...NEVER tell the next girl you date that you did this. This would scare the heck out of a lot of dating potentials for you. It makes you look like you're very immature. Good luck. I hope you find your match soon.
2007-02-23 10:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you even asks the question points to a mentatilty equilivant to a 12-year old. How sad. Don't date.
A 26 Year Old BOY is what you be. I don't give a rats about your feelings grow up your an embarassment to the few MEN left in this world.
2007-02-23 11:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cant push anyone to marry you, why would you want to be with someone who doesn't really want you for life??? I is a very bad thing you did, maybe she didn't marry you because she didn't trust you and you proved her right by putting the intimate video on-line. You are not evil though, I think you are just immature.
2007-02-23 11:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by dimplez 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
O.k look, your not 15 anymore, quit doing whatever it is that you are doing with the video.Either you can dwell in misery like a pig in a pen or you can run with the big dogs like a big boy.It's up to you of course, but if you stay there, then "what you get is all your getting" and no it wasn't the right thing to do, your lucky she don't sue you for "violation of privacy".Really what did you gain by it? and to someone that, at one time was worthy to marry. Now you slandered her body across the web. How ya feel now?Better?What goes around comes around.
2007-02-23 11:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by Sidetracked0260 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a lapse of judgement. The wrong decision, at the wrong time. Your character is shot now with this chick.
If she didnt want to marry you quite your bitchin, you didnt have a kid together. But you still love her, love hurts.
Get drunk, deal with your feelings, watch porn, but move on.
Your so young many more fish in the sea.
2007-02-23 11:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by pauljpray 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are so evil , why would you do something that mean . She needs to sue your behind, I tell you one thing you can kiss her sweet a** goodbye, if your depressed that buddy you will stay depressed if you wait for her to return to you.
Why in the world would do that, that was private and you made her look like trash, you always kiss and tell. That is very reason she left you to start with you wanting to marry her.. If you wait for her to marry you better join the priest hood, you are creep.
2007-02-23 11:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, you're evil, that was a mean and viscious and highly illegal thing to do. Go take those videos off the internet RIGHT NOW! Then destroy the videos, delete them completely.
No wonder she broke up with you, if you would do such a thing to get back at someone you claim you love.
2007-02-23 10:59:50 · answer #11 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋