were u dissapointed with the choice of ur partner after gettin married?

Question

and if u were, how soon it happend? and how u solved the problem?

Answer 1

Disappointed, would be putting it much too mildly.....devastated would be the better choice of a word to call it. It took all of a week to figure out I had made the biggest mistake of my life.....but it only took 25 years to get out of it, LOL. You never really know anyone until you marry them, then it's too late. We got a divorce after 25 years...THAT solved the problem!

Answer 2

yes i was almost disappointed immediately, when we were engaged, he did everything to sway me, to convince me, even told me i could go to him with anything, once we married he changed, i felt cheated, missed my old boyfriend, and knew i had made a mistake, stayed in this unhappy marriage 10 years, made the best of it, there were times when the marriage was good and times not so good. had we communicated in the right way we probably could have made it, but he was hard to talk to, never seemed to take my side on much, we just could not communicate, grudges were held, names were called, and it unfortunately lasted alot longer than it should have. guess when u feel that there is something wrong, u need to aire the problem, and see if u can work it out, if not the marriage is for sure doomed.

Answer 3

The stories all end "and they lived happily ever after." From what I'v seen, that is almost never true. Marriage takes a lot of tolerance. I knew within two years...each of three times... and I divorced. I now just live with someone and love it... nobody feels stuck, and each day is a choice. And I choose him.

Answer 4

Extremely disappointed. He got caught 2 1/2 months into the marriage and admitted he had been doing it after we had been married a month. I'm handling it with an annulment...I hope. If not, then divorce.

Answer 5

My first marriage, when i was young, was something that i regretted. I knew within the first year, that he was a hard man to live with. within the second year, he became a hard man to continue to love. I stuck it out for 10 years , because of children and not wanting to dissappoint my family (never a good reason to stay). After 5 years of marriage, I couldn't at all see a future with him-- i didn't picture us old and grey together. It was over.

Answer 6

I had expectations. I figured that once we were married he would be all that I needed. He would love me more, touch me more, be more intimate, more emotionally available. When in truth all that went downhill fast. Still, I hung in there. Eventually I divorced.

I could blame him for a lot of things, but actually I made the choice to be with someone totally wrong for me.

Answer 7

I was disappointed when my ex told me he wanted a divorce, with no prior indication of anything being wrong (turned out, he had met someone else); but apart from this, it was a good marriage.

My current marriage is REALLY good, been together for 2 years, and we're growing closer every day. No disappointments here.

Answer 8

All men are dissappointed soon ofter tthey get married. I know I am. However, if you don't get married in the first place, then you have nothing to be dissappointed about, and in case you do, you have every right to DUMP THAT B____!!!! and not face seeing her in court and having half of your stuff taken by her.

Answer 9

5 years, yes

she is ok, just not who I expected her to be, and she changed

so for 15 years its been kind of bad

drove me nuts too, literally

mostly lack of sex, other things too though

I'm going to solve it by finding people to sleep with. Taking steps toward it now. I know who my first choice is. Not sure she is interested or ready for it though. Then on to step 2 after awhile.

Answer 10

First time around, yes...12 years, we were not friends first...divorce. Second time I married my best friend, 16 years, and she's still my best friend and wife.