I asked precisely the same question about a divorcing husband and wife battling over custody. In each case, one parent was a stripper and one was a teacher. The only difference was that I reversed the roles. In one, the male was a stripper and in the other the female was the stripper.
Approx. 14 people answered each question. Where the male was the stripper, every person said the mother should get custody (except one who didn't care). Where the female was the stripper, about 3/4 wanted the mother to get custody or to have them share custody to be fair.
How come the double standard? Why did some people post defenses of the honorable profession of stripping when it was a female, but nobody defended the male stripper? Any thoughts?
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2007-02-23 10:49:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did the same people answer both questions?
If its not the same people... the results arent really accurate.
At least I hope not. As a mom I would LOVE to think I was inately better than a dad, but that isnt necc. true.
2007-02-23 11:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer Anne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crud, if only I'd gotten off work on time I could have answered your questions to contribute my thoughts.
Unfortunately, the reality is that the mother nearly always gets custody of a child. There exists perceptions that, overall, a man can never be as good a parent as a woman. I know that's not true of all men nor all women. I suppose some of it could be regarding a natural bond established before the child is born. Some of it might be that since women are biologically required to bear the pregnancy, the woman should be free to enjoy the "fruits" of her labor, while the man is physically allowed to disappear before the child is born. Some of it could also be any social/cultural expectations of gender roles or a man's/woman's responsibility to the child (the man earns the money, the woman takes care of the home and children, and all that misogynistic crap).
One twist to this experiment might have been the sex of the child. I would be interested to see the results of a similar series of questions if the custody battle was over a 6 year old boy. That and ask readers to identify themselves as male or female.
2007-02-23 11:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most people want the mother in the child's life more because they consider her the more nurturing of the two ( or, the children don't need their father as much). As fathers are now more involved for about the past two generations, these stereotypes are changing...s l o w l y.
2007-02-23 11:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by Mike M. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think most of your answers came from females . Come on haven't you learned about females and there double standards
Ive been saying this for so long that woman can and man cant .
2007-02-23 11:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cause men are expendable in this society. The only good thing for a man is lift heavy things, fix things, and make semen.
Everthing is so female baised, like women's **** dont stink.
2007-02-23 11:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by pauljpray 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally I think the household where the child is safest and best taken care of. Your choice of career should have nothing to do with custody, it needs to be about the kids, they need to be put first.
2007-02-23 11:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't care about children they care about protecting mommy's and the right to be a slut without repercussions.
Then maybe we will give some consideration about the kids.
2007-02-23 10:58:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 21:21:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try it again with a male child? See what happens?
2007-02-23 11:05:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋