My husband was at a bar with his ex for his son's birthday without telling me in September and a few months

Question

before that he told me that he had been at the bar one night when she came in and starting asking him to dance.
We then got a Christmas card from his brother made out to him and his ex and just the other day my husband called me by his ex's name instead of my name. Should I think something is up? Would you and what would you do about it.

Answer 1

tell him the next time he calls you by her name, you will kick him in the groin until he remembers who he is married to.
I wonder how it is he just happens to run into her while he is out.
I don't think anything is going on, but you should make it very clear to him that you do not approve, and if he can't go to the bar without running into her, he should stop going to the bar.
Oh, and call his brother up and remind him who he is married to these days.

Answer 2

When you marry with children you also get the wife.
Sometime when they split up there remain good friends, They will always be the parents.Her involvement is always going to be there for the child,& only the child???Then there is some that try to meddle in the new marrage That wrong.How about asking your husband that you would like to be with him during the wife involement, as they should only be talking about the welfar of the child.The bar is not a good meeting place for any child. Tell him to bring the child home with out the x wife.
Hope this helps,It seems that there is some thought for you to be concerned about.Best of luck.

Answer 3

I think you should be asking you're husband instead of asking us.

You going behind his back to ask about the situation on here could be just as damaging to him as what he has done to you.

Talk to him. Communication in a marriage is so important and not something you should play with. Marriages do not work just because you are married. You have to have a commitment to want to make it work.

What exactly are you going to do if most that answer tell you that he is doing something behind you're back? What are you going to do if most of the answers you get say leave him, he is up to something?

All you are going to get from Yahoo Answers are reasons to keep feeling bad about a situation that you have not even had the guts to confront him on. You don't have to go to him with blame, go to him with concern.

Answer 4

I think you have problems personally. The brother either made a bad mistake or hes warning you. They went to a bar without inviting you? thats just wrong! Then him calling you by her name that would be the final straw.... wait until hes a sleep, get out the gas, start the car, get a match set him on fire, get in your car and go lol just kidding but you needed a laugh. I would start looking to see who hes calling keeping track of his hours, look to see what he does on the computer. Get someone to call the ex wife and ask for him and see what she says. I think you know theres something up you need to beable to prove it otherwise he'll say its all in your head.

Answer 5

first of all you guys are married and why is his family addressing cards to him and his ex for? that is really disrespectful. you should let him know that you don't mind him being part of his sons life but you want to be included or at least informed on what and where he's at/doing.

Answer 6

Sounds like the trust is gone. Without trust the relationship is doomed.

Answer 7

I think there's a definite possibility that there's something going on. But you should confront him about it, because there's no way to be certain. Unless you want to call Cheaters. =]

Answer 8

Does a ton of bricks have to fall on your head?

Answer 9

i would think something was up, and I would sit your hubby down and have a serious talk with him. Don't let him think you are naive..they always think they can outsmart you...don't give him the chance. follow his butt around if you need to.

Answer 10

sound's like he still hung up with his ex