I'm graduating and I have to decide whether or not to stay in my state or go to my dream state..my family is okay with me leaving i am too, but i'm scared. I'm going all the way across the country to live my dreams, but i don't know what my dreams are anymore. If I go, i know i will survive, but I love someone, and If we start a relationship, I might not want to go and that makes me think, maybe I never really thought of actually going, did i really want to go? Or was I waiting for an excuse not to? This guy I love will be with me in time..and if I fall in love, really deep, i'm not going to want to go. Should I go either way, no matter what? and if me and this guy never get together, how can i tell if i really wanted to go or not? I'm confused..any psycologists out there? lol am i making excuses not to go because i'm scared or are these feelings of love really holding me back? I have wanted to go since i was little, and i thought it was the right thing to do..but ow i'm not to sure..
2007-02-23 10:45:58 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are so young and it is a wonderful thing. Take a chance and go. I think you are getting cold feet and are looking for excuses to stay home. If the worst possible thing happens and you get so homesick you can't stand it, then you can always go home, but at least you tried. At your age I took life by the horns and had a great ride. I moved away from my family and I met the man of my dreams and we have had a wonderful marriage. I got a quality education and so did my husband. That is where we met, at school. I too was afraid but I did it anyway and am grateful I did.
Go and have a blast. Make new friends. Attend classes and learn something new. Experience new things and do new things.
2007-02-23 10:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go! you have a lifetime to fall in love. you're still young. maybe your dreams could become his dreams over time. keep in contact with him. Take this opportunity while you still have it, could be a once in a lifetime opportunity.
Odds are if you stay where you are, you'll fall truly madly and deeply in love, you'll have kids and stay there forever and be really really lucky to go to your dream state EVER.
Everything happens for a reason, I believe that and I believe in destiny....
you have a few options.....go and see what there is there....maybe your true love is there and has always been there dreaming of you.
maybe you can talk this guy into going with you if the relationship is headed where you think it is.
if you really love each other he'll wait til you go back or he'll eventually make his way there to see you.
I don't think you're scared to go.....I think you're scared to go alone...... take a family member or a girlfriend with you in the beginning so you're not alone............and nope, not a psychologist, it's just common sense to me.
Good Luck and I hope your dreams come true!
2007-02-23 11:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by mizt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change is always scary. If you don't go, then you may always regret not going. Then on the other hand, if the man you love has a change in plans and doesn't go, then things between you and him may not work out.....long distance relationships very seldom work out......they're not impossible, but improbable. I say shoot for your dreams....and if you don't like it, then you could always move back home. Best of luck to you.......
2007-02-23 11:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like maybe you should try him out, then if he isn't any good, then go out west or wherever
beware of running from yourself, it doesn't work, moving is expensive and stressful. Visit wherever it is for a month before you move there.
2007-02-23 10:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋