With my boyfriend's ex girlfirend! Me and my boyfriend have been together since I was 17 and he was 21. We have been living together for the past 3 years and have been together 5 years. I love him more than anything in this world. OK, so here's my problem: My boyfriend's ex g/f found him on myspace and has been leaving him comments suggesting that she still has feelings for him. I calmly messaged her and asked her that she please repect our relationship. She retaliated and said that I took her comments the wrong way and that she was just trying to keep in touch with an old friend. However, he received a letter from her a couple or years ago saying that she would leave her husband and two kids to be with him again. So, I was looking at his myspace again, and she left a really suggestive comment: "Let me be your naughty angel."I had already told her that I didn't appreciate her leaving those types of comments, and she said she wasn't trying to break us up. What should I do,confront him?
2007-02-23 10:38:05 · 7 answers · asked by Nichole 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
do you even have to ask. nicely talk to him. say you lvoe him, etc.... then ask if he has been in touch with his ex.. if he says yes, ask why and for him to be honest.. if he says no, then ask him to call her on speaker phone and tell not ask, tell her not to message him on myspace, not to write him letters etc anymore because their relationship is over etc. make sure its on speaker phone so you can hear her reaction. if she sounds surprised that he's saying this kind of stuff to her, you will know something is up. i wish you luck, hopefully you have a faithfull boyfriend.
2007-02-23 10:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by bar22bie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definitely confront your boyfriend, and if need be, confront his ex girlfriend again. Ask her what she's thinking leaving him messages like that. She's married, and has children. There is a reason that they are no longer together, so she needs to get over it, and concentrate on her own life, WITHOUT YOUR BOYFRIEND. She is obviously trying to mess your relationship up, because that's what all ex girlfriends try to do when they find out their ex boyfriend is in another relationship. It's simply jealousy. She is jealous, and she thinks that if she can creep back into your man's life, and start talking and reminiscing about their times, then maybe he'll be interested in her again. So you need to stop this immediately, and let your boyfriend know that this is bothering you. And if he really cared about you, he would tell this chick to back off, because he is happily in a relationship with you, and she needs not mess things up. Talk to your man. Let him know you saw messages from her that were very disturbing. She sounds really sneaky, and that is very disrespectful. Put her in her place.
Good Luck.
2007-02-23 18:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by Loves It<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back in the day when my husband and I were dating and then we lived together, we had the same problem with one of his ex-girlfriends. it was before my space but she called him all the time and would leave naughty messages on the answering machine. I called her back once and asked her to stop. She then started calling him at work and offering to take him to lunch and such. He told me and I had a long talk with him about how it upset me. He told her to stop and it took a while but she did.
I say your best bet is not to "confront" him but to speak to him calmly and tell him how much it upsets you and ask him to put a stop to it. I did and it worked. We have been married for more than 25 years now. Good Luck.
2007-02-23 18:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would certainly ask him if he still had feelings for her.
Best to do so now than later. Woman can be very vindictive creatures unfortunately. This one could only be bored with her married life, so she is looking for extra marital venture.
If I were the boyfriend I would leave well alone he may take on more than he can chew. Particularly if children are involved.
This woman has an identity crises. Right now she doesn't care who she hurts. Believe me she is trying to break this relationship, and she will try no matter what and who she hurts.
My suggestion is to sit down and decide what it is he wants out of this relationship with yourself. Men are easily lead unfortunately.and if the water is sweeter over the rise believe me he will drink until he has had enough.
2007-02-23 18:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by aotea s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should confront your boyfriend because why?? why can't he tell her that I have girlfriend and I am in love with her...
Me I always shared things with my wife and I have nothing to hide. at first my wife like why you telling me and then later she understand why I am telling her because I love my wife and If any women want me back or what ever it is no thanks.
He should be telling her to back off and leave him and you alone but why didn't he?? find out more about him smiling..
2007-02-23 18:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got to let him know that you have to go forward and can never go backwards and if yall have something good he should not let her mess up what yall have cause must be a reason why they broke up just let them know how you feel
2007-02-23 18:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by lynia_edwards 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah tlk to him about it and if he loves u he'll ask dat girl to stop sending your bf those types of comments!! and if he knows how to understand u then he wont recieve those comments or even erase her out of his myspace to respect wat u feel for him!!
2007-02-23 18:45:41 · answer #7 · answered by sexy_latina_81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋