My wife and I have been trying to have a baby for like 7 months now and have not had luck.
We've been pregnant before, about 5 years ago and had an abortion, then she went on the depo shot and stopped taking that last January.
Now there is a lot of pressure on having a baby, as we have not had immediate luck, she is talking about adoption, which is not appealing to me.
Additionally, we are looking at selling our exisiting home and butying a bigger one, just got a puppy, etc.....
I am starting to get stressed and feel overwhemlmed. The stress is starting to make melike I have more of a roomate than a wife.
It kinda sucks. Anyone gone through this kind of stress before. Any tips?
2007-02-23 10:30:53 · 5 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't sweat it, it actually happen in all marriage
sometime things that should pull you guys together actually pull you apart
be patient and it will work out, when making change (like buying a home, stress on trying to conceive) one or both party can become overhelm expecially since you guys had an abortion in the past you probaly thinking that is the reason why you guys are not getting pregnant yet
well it is only 7 month with depo shots it can take that or more to get the woman body back to normal
so do yourselves a favor and see doc before you both go crazy
Good luck
2007-02-23 10:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off you need to relax, stress will not help her conceive a child, you both need to take the focus off you immediate wants. Marriage is not easy it take communication but more then anything it takes compromise, find something you enjoy all by yourself, IE PS2 or the Internet, porn is a good source of release, no chat site or IM very bad idea. Sometimes less is better, when you talk to your wife, talk about the past and what brought you together, make a game of it. Whatever you do, just do not dwell on what you both want meaning a baby, before you know it you will be a new father Trust.
2007-02-23 18:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can take up to a year or more to get pregnant after stoping the shot. Right now your wife just wants a baby and when it isnt coming as fast as one wishes we tent to become upset. I'd tell her that adoption isnt what you want right now, that she will get pregnant in time but god wont be rushed. About 10 days after the last day of her period is the best time to try. Buy a regular temp. thing and before she sits up have her put it in her mouth, when its higher then usual shes ready. My advice is to enjoy the sex while you get it when the baby comes it all stops lol. I'd also tell her thats its starting to create stress for you and that you want to get back to normal if a babys going to come it will if not then it wont, but the marriage needs to stay strong. Try to remember the women trying to get pregnant is very disappointed every month she might get depressed and stressed too.
2007-02-23 19:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We tried to have a baby for 3 years, went to see a infertility doctor, finally got beautiful baby. She is now 19 years old.
It was very sad. I felt like I was missing something. Go see a doctor, they can do so many things now a days. Good luck.
2007-02-23 18:39:17 · answer #4 · answered by Pluto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stress can make it feel as if u don't even love that person anymore. therapy might work for u. just be patient with the pregnancy it will happen just too much stress right now.
2007-02-23 18:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋