should i be upset?
am i just being dumb?
2007-02-23 10:23:56 · 20 answers · asked by ♥sweet♥ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I've never looked up any ex's.
My husband was my first real boyfriend, so I guess I just didn't understand the curiosity...
Thanks for all the great answers so far ;)
2007-02-23 10:35:23 · update #1
Well you could be upset if you think he's not over his ex and he's chatting with her privately on myspace. On the other hand, if you know he's so totally over her, I don't think it would be a big deal. As a matter of fact, I'm thinking of looking up mine...
2007-02-23 10:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Just another opinion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel stupid, and you have every right to be upset. I would be, if I were in your situation. To a certain extent you husband looking up his is normal. It could be a simple case of curiosity, it could be a guy thing too.
Even though I'm re-married I've tried to find my ex on myspace. I love my current wife, but every now and then I wonder how my ex is doing. I wouldn't worry about anything unless he tried to meet with his ex.
2007-02-23 10:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by evil_paul 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good marriage you still have the right to be upset. I'd be very upset by this. If your marriage isnt doing so well then you even have more reason to be upset and very concerned. If the marriage is good tell him how it makes you feel, ask if it were you looking up an ex boyfriend how he'd feel. If he says he wouldnt mind, look up an old boyfriend make sure he finds out then when he gets upset say I thought you said you wouldnt mind because believe me he would mind. Not by any means are you being stupid you have feelings. That was disrepectfull.
2007-02-23 10:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK this is a tough one, if you treat your husband like you are totally upset and start to get jealous he might just keep pushing your buttons until you are walking out the door. if you don't say anything and just keep acting like nothing is wrong this is going to affect other parts of your life and marriage. you just have to look at the signs that he is giving you, is he trying to hide the fact from you. is he talking to her or is he just acting different coming in late and with no real excuse. the big thing is to communicate with him now and let him know that you have some concerns but you trust him completely and that he is your man lol in a play-full way.
2007-02-23 10:56:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So he looked up an ex on myspace. I've found alot of my ex's on myspace, because I have my highschool and college listed along with the years I attended. It has gotten and kept me in touch with old friends. The only one who can answer whether YOU should be upset or not is YOU...should you?
2007-02-23 10:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how do you know that your husband looked up his ex on MySpace? Did he tell you? Or did you go onto the computer to snoop around at what he was doing? By looking up his ex, what do you suppose that means? That he's hoping to reconnect with her? Secretly meet her? Have an affair? Leave you when the timing is right? Or do you think that maybe he's just a little curious as to how she ended up????
2007-02-23 10:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There are always curiosities about where former lovers/girlfriends, etc. have gone or what they've become, especially those we were close to. Normally they mean nothing, but the solution is simple-- ask him what it meant to him. If you ask in an accusatory manner, or with a judgmental eye, likely you'll not get an honest answer.
2007-02-23 10:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by Wisdom??? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See in the initiating i replaced into going to decline biggy. I looked up my ex yet in particular through fact i needed to work out how fat he had gotten. It’s immature yet he did get fatter and it replaced into an exceptionally good validation. Plus i admire observing pictures. however the reality that his status says single and additionally you didn’t comprehend relating to the account is an entire different concern. He’s mendacity. Are there any pictures of the two one in all you on his account or in simple terms himself? If there are pictures, it must be a threat that he hasn’t looked into updating his profile. once you place up an myspace internet site, you aren’t introduced directly to alter it. It rapidly defaults to single. in spite of the reality that…if he has %. on there then he knows a thank you to apply the positioning so he ought to comprehend a thank you to alter the status. reliable good fortune chica
2016-10-16 08:38:39 · answer #8 · answered by troesch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was out of curiosities. Buy why? How do you know he not writing her on my space?Now that he knows she there. If he is what kind of actions are you going to take.What kind of actions did you take after finding out he did that. Are you OK with it. We can give you are opinions but the truth is did it bother you. If it did then you need to put a end to that curiosity, don't you think. Men work like this if you allow them to get away with it, they will do it again and again. And I don't mean treat them like a baby I mean handle it like a women.You need to send your message loud in clear, and that don't mean you scream, that you don't ever want him doing that ever.Then go buy him ten stupid things couple do to mess up their relationship by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger. is a easy book to read in right to the point.
2007-02-23 10:55:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes and no. i think it depends on how secure you are in your marriage. do you think he'll act on anything? maybe he was just wondering how she was dong. my ex found me on myspace while i was on my honeymoon. now that was kinda wierd. (hes married too. my husband didnt like it at first, especially since we all now live in the same town again about a mile away from eachother, but he got over it. so long as you trust you hubby and know he wont do anything, it shouldnt be a big deal. good luck to you.
2007-02-23 10:33:43 · answer #10 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋