i went out from work with co workers and had to much to drink. on the way out of the bar i got into a co workers car, we started to kiss and then he pulled his pants down and i went down on him. the big problem is that i am married and also a man. does this make me gay?
2007-02-23 10:19:50 · 19 answers · asked by rick k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well... did you enjoy it?... if you did you should question your marriage... but if you didn't, I would forget about it and not tell my wife about it.... this is not something you guys can figure out and get over together... this is for most women a deal breaker... trust me.
2007-02-23 10:25:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think it makes you gay? Did you enjoy it more than having sex with your wife, you must have been thinking about this for a long time. I'm straight all the way and if some woman tried to kiss me and make obscene gestures the fight would be on. I wouldn't allow that drunk or not drunk, if you did that then you probably or bisexual.
What you think your wife would say if she found out, I know what I would do I'd do some traveling. You know good and well this isn't your first time are you wouldn't know what to do. Did it make you feel good otherwise climax. If it did , you got a problem and it want be the last time.
Do you have children , you got in that car knowing what was going to take place no drinking doesn't cause that or is it a excuse. You are in deep trouble and if I was your wife you'd be in so much trouble that I would take you to the cleaners. Running around making a complete a** out of your self, if your going go with boys than you need to tell your wife where can get started kicking your sorry a** out that door. Makin a fool out of your wife.
2007-02-23 19:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might be a little "out there," but bare with me...
The is no such thing as "gay" or "straight."
Sexuality is actually on a continuum. So, based on genetic make-up, most people are farther in one direction or the other. Some people are SO far in either direction that they can probably be called "gay" or "straight," but the majority of us are somewhere in the middle.
My point is...don't label yourself. You deserve more than that. Culturally speaking, two women doing the same thing you did wouldn't be nearly as taboo. Just go with what you are feeling. If you are indeed attracted to men, don't fight it (this will only cause you pain in the long run). You are obviously attracted to women, being a married man.
Find someone who won't judge you and who you absolutely trust to talk about your feelings on this.
2007-02-23 19:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by Kristine P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the only person that can tell you if you are gay is yourself. You were out partying you had a lot too drink, alcohol can really alter a persons mind on the way they feel. You know "beer googles" When your sober, think of going down on that guy,if you wonder what the hell you were thinking I would say you are straight, if you think you'll do it again, I would say you are bi-sexual, since you are married.
2007-02-23 18:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by Woody 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have been having some thoughts about your sexual preferences, a lot of people do, as far as carrying out the fantasies,well that's another story. Your wife would of course be deeply heartbroken, but I believe she needs to know. Counseling may be an option.There is nothing wrong with gay people, but you are married to a woman!!
2007-02-23 19:31:01 · answer #5 · answered by deborah h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it you have never been with a man before. I wouldn't say you are gay now but you have surely crossed the line from claiming to be straight. If you liked it maybe you need to sit down and have a serious discussion with yourself and your wife to see where this leaves you two. I say do what you like and make sure you are happy.
2007-02-23 18:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by CoCo Chanel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Just curious, don't dwell on it. I would not go out with them again, at least drinking.
If you feel like going out for a drink, bring the wife next time.
2007-02-23 18:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by suicidal_chicky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with thinking about if you liked it or not, and if you could see yourself doing it again. What the heck led to kissing in the first place?? Wow, did he "go"?
2007-02-23 18:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by Just another opinion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you like it?? - Is he gay...more details. But I am leaning towards - yes
2007-02-23 18:23:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a yes to me.
2007-02-23 18:22:57 · answer #10 · answered by pjthedj247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋