My daughter is 6 weeks old today. IN the afternoon, when I place her in her little bouncy seat when she is asleep she wakes up SCREAMING. This pretty much continues for the rest of the night. When I pick her up I can "sh" her and pat her on teh back until she calms down and falls back asleep. But then when I set her back down, she will sleep for maybe 15 minutes and then just wake up screaming. My question is, at what point are you spoiling her? I don't mind picking her up if I am not doing some long term damage...I don't want her to cry it out but my friend has a 2 year old who absolutly can NOT be away from his mom long enough for her to go to the bathroom and I refuse to let Edie be that way...but everything i read says that she needs to know I am here and that she is too young to "cry it out". But what is the cut off for this? I don't know if she "needs" to be comforted or if she has learned already that if she cries I will drop everything and sit with her. I am losing it!
2007-02-23 10:17:24 · 10 answers · asked by Erika H 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You're not spoiling her at 6 weeks. Right now, her memory isn't very good. Supposedly, holding your baby frequently for the first 6 months will not spoil her.
I would wait to work on ferberizing (cry it out) until at least 6 months, but that is a personal opinion. Check Ferber's book for his guidelines.
Try a baby bjorn. Some babies really like being worn. Your hands will be free to do other things.
Also, a pair of earplugs helps with the "grating on your nerves" factor when she is crying. For me, it helped to tone things down a lot.
Remember, that if you ever think you are going to lose it, you can put her down and let her cry so that you can walk away and get a chance to regroup. Call a friend or a family member to talk or whatever helps you to relax.
2007-02-23 10:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by J C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with JC. Don't worry about spoiling, especially not at this age. A Snuggli or sling is a great way to go to comfort and keep them close, but still be able to do things around the house. If she is falling asleep next to you she may be registering the change (especially in temperature) when you move her. And yes, wait until she is at least six months old before you let her cry it out if you choose to do that.
2007-02-23 17:07:12 · answer #2 · answered by n2mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always thought that letting a baby cry it out only referred to night time sleeping. I wouldn't be concerned about spoiling her. When she's awake during the day does she constantly scream to be held? If so, that might be a problem - but even still, she's only 6 weeks old, if she's screaming - she's screaming for a reason and you need to pick her up.
2007-02-23 11:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's crying for a reason; you basically do no longer know what that's. it may desire to be that she's uncomfortable, or should be held, or rocked, or that she's too warm or chilly. Her clothing could be scratchy, she could be bored, or drained. I additionally suspect that as you experience greater annoying, she ideas up on that and it makes her greater annoying, which makes her cry, which makes you much greater annoying. positioned her in a service or stroller and walk outdoors together with her. The sparkling air and exercising is powerful for the two one in each of you. you additionally should no longer hesitate to be sure the well-being practitioner. She could have reflux (which could be painful) or allergic to despite you're feeding her (or, while you're breastfeeding, something which you're ingesting). My nephew cried an undesirable lot for the 1st 2 years. We found out later that he has a genetic disability that could have been inflicting soreness. undesirable factor (he's superb now).
2016-09-29 13:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like colic to me.....my son went thru that..started in the afternoons and lasted most of the night till he was about three months....try different things....I would rock my son to sleep and then lay him in the bed, and then pat his back and slowly ease off.....in my opinion 6 weeks is too young to let a baby cry it out....there is NO WAY to spoil a 6 week old. They are only infants once, hold them and cuddle them while you can....see if this phase eases up in a few weeks, and don't be afraid to try different things....
2007-02-23 10:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No 6 weeks is too young to be spoiled you should enjoy spoiling her because once their old enough to use their cuteness against you it's all over.
2007-02-23 10:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by ProudMommy05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's only six weeks old! When she wakes up she's just afraid that you're not there. She will outgrow this...just keep picking her up and soothing her when she cries.
Also, she is too young to spoil.
2007-02-23 10:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by dragonsong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is too young to cry it out. i don't think that when the baby is miserable and u pick him then u r spoiling . he can't mind his own business at this age. take care of him and forget about spoiling
2007-02-23 11:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by Shahd-Shams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Food spoils. Babies don't.
And heck - even food only spoils when it's unattended.
Pick up your newborn child and enjoy these early days.
2007-02-23 12:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by L A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you might need to tell your doctor
your daughter is having night terrors.
they are normal for most people but there is some medication that you can get to help her stop.
also try telling her a happy story before she falls asleep!
she also may have collic, which isn't serious.
2007-02-23 10:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by sexy_chic 1 · 0⤊ 5⤋