He hurt me very badly. I was there for him through all his hard times and he ended things nicley with me but I find out the real reason why.
He left me to pursue a relationship with a one night stand he was with before we met. She had gotten pregnant. He was even suicidal over this because he couldnt stand to have a child with this girl. Anyhow, I helped him come to terms with it and he met his child but began to want to get to know the mother as well. I can let things go, if he were honest, but he put me through much mentally, with his contstant dperession and suicidal feelings. When I found out I was in the hospital and all he told me never to call him again. After all I did for him, we never even fought..ever. Now, he is not with her and does not want to talk to me either. He told me that if I need help to seek help from a pychologist. That hurt me more then anything, considering I helped him thru so much. I stopped calling him, I dont sign online, I dont care to ever talk to him
2007-02-23 10:01:14 · 4 answers · asked by maria s 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
again. But I wonder...will he ever realize the hurt he caused me or id he in denial, or does he not care. We were "together" for almost 2yrs. I guess I should have never contacted him after...but now, he has lost me completely, not even a friend I will be to him, after what he has done and said to me. But do people like this ever regret in the long run?? He cant talk to me, is it shame?
2007-02-23 10:03:07 · update #1
You are clearly a very kind hearted person with a huge capacity to love and forgive. Your ex is a deeply troubled, unstable person who is consumed by the troubles in his life. As much as you care and try to be there for him, he is pulling away from everyone right now. It's possible you remind him of what he's messed up or the kind of person he isn't. Give him space. Maybe in time, when he's better, he might apologize but I wouldn't hold my breath. I know you will have no trouble finding someone else who will appreciate you for who you are and would never compromise your love or trust. However, if you don't move past this guy, you could bring this baggage to your next relationship or miss it all together.
BTW -- I'm personally not the type to remain friends with my ex. I tried it once with a guy I dated for 4 years. It was a total disaster and ended up making both of us (plus my new bf) miserable.
2007-02-23 11:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Shorty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a shame. So many people just do not know how to be a friend. He probably thinks that the only reason that you called was to try to get back together. Guys are often like that. Unfortunately people often, very often do not regret the hurt that they have caused others. Sometimes they just don't see it. Often they are too interested in their own lives to care. It won't be the last time you have to deal with insensitive people dear. The world is full of them. Forget him. He is not worth the trouble. You are a good friend and you have that to be proud of.
2007-02-23 10:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His thinking behind this would be hard to determine. Maybe he is trying to make things right by being a father to the life he brought into this world, and he values this a lot. As for you, it might pain him to lose you but he doesn't want to fall into another depression about the whole thing so it was just easier for him to toss you aside than work things through, being very emotional about all of it. Again, this is all hypothetical and I couldn't say for sure.
2007-02-23 10:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by heavy_cow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my ex left on good grounds 3 years in the past and have now grown so a techniques aside we don't even talk anymore, so in my journey (as a male) no, we don't flow back. BTW i got here upon somebody new and its a lot greater valuable than formerly! wish this facilitates.
2016-10-01 21:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋