we met at a party and our first date was wine, board games, movies, and you know what at his place. we've never gone out anywhere and he always wants me to come to his place, never to mine. i dont complain b/c it's convenient for us both, and i always come over late and leave early in the morning. we have great chemistry and always seems to satisfy each other, plus we dont even mind cuddling, talking, and watching tv afterwards. however, his first child was born a couple of years ago and i didnt find out about it until he was almost a year old when i began noticing baby stuff around his place. not sure why it wasnt there sooner but he's a handsome man with a degree, job, money, etc. and he'll be 32 at the end of the year, but he's still single. i never see signs of another woman living with him and his phone never rings when i come over, but im sure im not the only one...maybe? he even takes care of his child and spends time with him, but do you think he'll ever settle down with me?
2007-02-23 09:56:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Sorry, Honey, but he's using you. You are a sexual convenience for him, and that's all he wants. Get a real boyfriend who isn't ashamed to be seen in public with you! You can do better than this user.
Just think about it--he got some other woman pregnant a couple of years into his relationship with you and didn't even tell you about the child until the kid was a year old. That's not the way a man treats a woman he intends to settle down with. You don't need to "talk to him." Actions speak louder than words, and his actions are screaming at you that all he wants from you is a place to stick his hard-on. Have some respect for yourself and dump the loser ASAP.
2007-02-23 10:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by Maple 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
On first impression, No, it sounds like he has a great thing going and wants to keep things exactly where they are. If he has a child and is not with the woman, then he knows all about the perils of commitment (child support, control over his schedule, putting other's priorities ahead of his), etc...
Men tend to be quite clear when there is somethig they want that they are not getting. If he hasn't told you over and over again that he wants a committment with you chances are he doesn't.
Put yourself in his shoes and try to be honest, what does have to gain by "settling down" that is worth the risk (alimony, child support, loss of freedom, taking a 50% chance that he will lose of half of everything he has worked for his whole life, complications of having 2 different kids from 2 different women.) Is it REALLY worth the risks for him?
2007-02-23 10:21:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a women i can tell you the honest truth i know a lot of men and they always have a girl thats number1, and a side girl. know a man is only going to use u if you let him in your case your nothing but, a booty call cause you let these things go on stop him in tracks and tell him no. as long as u keepp sleeping with he is going to use u. he never settle down a whole year and you didnt even know he had a child, u dont know his friends or his family he dont care to let u know i dont care what he has it is not yours. put, that trash in the garbage and move on.
2007-02-23 13:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh My! I do beleive this guy has hit the jackpot., he's having his cake and eating it too. I tdo not think he has plans to marry you ever. Have you meant his family? Friends? Come on you know botty call is what it is. Walk away and find a guy that will treat you with respect and be proud to have you on his arm. You'll be inviting bounty man to your wedding!
2007-02-23 10:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by lucyshines49 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you kidding, of course he'll never settle down with you. he's looking to use you up until your old and grey and nobody wants you and then he'll go on to his next jump-off (who will be 10 years younger and have her cousins still perky). i say ask him and if he gives you the "oh i don't know if this is the right time..." BS, get your strut on and sashay your way out of the door with whats left of you dignity.
why should he settle with you when you're taking all his crap. protect yourself and the investment you have in your youth. do the right thing , ask this donkey to commit and if he refuses, tell him to kiss you azz!!!
2007-02-23 10:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by puzzlite 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No of course not! He's getting everything he needs and wants, and doesn't have to make a commitment, put himself out, or even spend much money!
My mother used to say "Behave like a rug, and people will walk on you". You are one big rug.
Dump the bum!
2007-02-23 12:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
open your mouth instead of your legs and ask questions. He may have a couple of you suckers on the go. Get some answers from the source before your in too deep.
2007-02-23 12:12:30 · answer #7 · answered by unit663 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't met any of his Friends or family then sista! he just using you for the sex and sex only, furthermore if you haven't spent anytime with him and his baby then you are for sure just a nice booty call after all this years.
2007-02-23 11:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if health, pregnancy and jealousy is not an issue what is your complaint.it sounds like you have a good thing to me.you stated that he has a degree,is security on your part another issue?
2007-02-23 10:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hun i think you need to talk to him about it. you need to get his honest thoughts because a child is a big responsibility not only for him to deal with but for you also. talking is the best solution to your problem, but you probably already know that.
2016-05-24 03:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋