I seem to become *very* shy and introverted when meeting too people. I am afraid of how people perceive me and judge me. And as a guy, I hate how I am thinking like this.
I wish I could turn "turn off" these qualities and become the person I want to be. I see that I am limiting my opportunities because of these qualities now. How do I start become more spontaneous and outgoing with people?
2007-02-23 09:55:55 · 7 answers · asked by Sclaven Smith 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It takes practice and lots of it. You need to start being more positive in how you see yourself. Everybody can change but good things don't happen overnight.
I really recommend the "overcoming" series of books. They have one called "Overcoming social phobia and shyness". Those books are easy to read and provide a step-by-step program using cognitive behavioral techniques.
Best of luck.
2007-02-23 10:02:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont could look ahead to school to be the guy you prefer to be. you will continually be changing. My opinion is have exciting in college, yet stay concentrated. i wanted to alter as quickly as I have been given to varsity additionally, regrettably i ended up changing for the extra severe and at last dropped out. So stay concentrated on why you're there interior the 1st place. i think of your "what i'm" and "what i might prefer to be" are quite comparable. for sure you're smart once you are going to varsity. inspite of what you're saying you at the instant are not even slightly obese. maximum faculties have gyms and weight rooms, if that's what you prefer to do. self belief is a few thing which will grow to be a sort of your individual. i visit end my answer with, i think of you will do exactly superb with out changing something. Be your self. Dont experience obligated to do something. you're stunning with the aid of the way =D, so as that makes you appropriate. Have a solid one.
2016-11-25 19:44:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not turn things off.
you have to accept how you are , shy and introvert , so what ? you also have people who are brutal and extravert
and everthing between
just do your things, do what you want and dont let the idea that you are shy limit you because then it does certainly.
I was shy and still am shy in certain situations, it took me 40 years to become less shy, simply by accepting that you are what you are.
2007-02-23 10:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by gjmb1960 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing but truth will give you peace, my friend. Look to the Greats for a start. Einstein, Plato, Socrates, Buddha, Jesus, just check-out what they have to say. Eventually everyone and everything will be your teacher. Above all know that we don't find ourselves, we create ourselves!
2007-02-23 10:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by lawolifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be those things in order to attain them.. If you try, everyone will sense that you are a total fake.
2007-02-23 10:03:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jessycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't just "turn off" those qualities all at once. you weren't like this before so you are able to change!
good luck :)
2007-02-23 10:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by cognition 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself..i used to hav this same issue and someone gave me the same advice. at first i didn't believe him but it really does work!!
2007-02-23 09:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by simply me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋