This guy I know wife is cheating on him with his BFF. It's sickening to attend casual dinners at his house and watch his wife and her lover give each other secret winks right under his nose.
What would you do?
2007-02-23 09:38:39 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know exactly what you mean.
A couple we know is in the same situation, she cheats on him while he is out bustin his butt trying to pay the bills while she runs wild.
My view is this, he probably has some kind of idea that she is cheating, but if he doesn't ask you directly, I would stay out of it.
If he does ask you , you have to tell him, thats being a friend.
Its very tricky, i know, where you draw that line.
I have told my wife if she wants to be friends with that woman, fine, but I will have nothing to do with her, I don't want her at the house, or hang out with her or anything.
I do not want her to think I condone her actions when her husband tries so hard.
It is hard, but I would just stay out of it, I don't know how good of friends you are with this guy, but unless you are really close, its not really your place.
If you are really close, then maybe, but you have judge that.
I don't envy your position.
2007-02-23 10:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mr R 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As much as you may want to tell your friend about his wife it may not be a good idea. The phrase love is blind is more true than a lot of people think.
Here is my story...
My cousin and her man (not married) were always having problems and she would tell me about it. He was just a dirty dog...always out partying leaving her at home. It got really bad after there first baby was born. He would go out sometimes all night and she would be at home. He went from job to job nothing real steady. He was and is just a loser. They had another baby! Big mistake things just continued to get worse. I found out he was cheating on her. I had evidence and I knew the girl he cheated with. I told my cousin! The girl he cheated with even verified my story. My cousin asked him about it and he denied it. Said that I was making it up because I didn't like him and blah blah blah!
Well now my cousin and I don't talk they are married now and have a 3rd baby and he is still a sorry loser!
2007-03-02 18:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by sassypants_911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your business. I would tell her that you know that she is cheating, and that she needs to inform her husband. Do not tell him! It is not your business.
The other thing I'd do, is stay out of their lives. I wouldn't go to dinner parties. It is almost supporting her BS of a marriage, and you are also disgusted by it. No reason to go through that. And if you have a dinner party, invite everyone besides the people that are involved. Just remove them from your life.
2007-02-23 17:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by Keep It Sane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The spouse is entitled to know they are being exposed to an std. Secondarily, money is being diverted from the family. But if a pregnancy occurs, it won't be so secondary!
Best rule of thumb: " Would I want to be left in the dark if it was me?"
2007-02-23 17:58:33 · answer #4 · answered by LELAND 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You state," this guy you know". Is this a good friend? Or are you just looking to rat out his wife? If you are not close with this guy I would mind my own business.
2007-03-02 15:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been in that situation before and it can work both ways #1 you can tell and they can work things out for them selves or #2 which is what happend to me,i thought i was doing my friend a favor by telling her the truth and her and her boyfriend decided to stay together.well needless to say she ended up hateing me for keeping this secret and i havent talked to them since so weigh your options.
2007-03-03 11:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd stay out of it and wonder how long is it going to take for him to catch on to what's going on with his wife and BFF?
2007-02-23 18:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him if he would want to know if his wife where cheating ?? Like it was just a general question, and if he said "YES" then I would tell him what I knew, and how knowing that had bothered me, as what to do with that information ?~Jill
2007-02-23 17:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well some going to say yes, be me no way, i learn years ago, to stay out of a man an his wife bizz, for if you say told him, then you be drag, in to it, an at the end you be the bad guy in the end
2007-02-23 18:01:32 · answer #9 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I've done it more than once. I can't stand someone making a fool out of a good person.
2007-02-23 18:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋